My husbands mother is threatening to take us to court to gain more access to our children. She sees them whenever she wants, but claims to friends and family I (daughter in law) will not her see them, she visits once, sometimes twice or more a week. She has tried to split myself and husband up, even thrieatening to stand up in church and say something on our wedding day and many other incidences. I get anxious when she visits as I am worried about the lies she is spreading about me and that she is trying her best to cause conflict between my husband and I. I am white South African and she has been racist towards me, calling me black etc. The conflict and stress with her phonecalls causes my 3 year old to cry at times. I feel she is trying to split my family up and need professional help and advise. I have read up about proceedings and also that other couples has applied for a non-molestation order.
Bath, 1 three year old and a 9 month old baby. She mainly visits at our house and sometimes her house, she lives 2 miles away.
As my husband is the only child it is difficult for him. We have just today had a situation occur where she turned up at our house unannounced with a friend, this is after the last time we spoke a week ago where she told me that she feels sorry for my children and do they know what a liar I am. We had conflict because I found out that she made payments out of a joint second property account for our holiday home which she shockingly does not want to pay back £2700. I could not cope with her today as had a very bad day with teething baby and told her for the first time that it was not convenient to visit. She the later contacted my husband and stated she wants to see my eldest daughter and he agreed to take her to her house later in the week, which caused an argument as I feel he does not support me and state to his mum that her behaviour is unacceptable, otherwise she thinks she can treat me one way and still have a normal relationship with my children.