Hello again, and thank you for your prompt reply.
His solicitors wrote to me saying they had advised him to apply first for an injunction. I am in breach of the Police warning not to make any contact with him or say or make any comment whatsoever to anyone about him and I did. I wrote two letters, one to him to which he didn't reply and another to his mother to ask her to help persuade him to settle things with me. I accept I am in breach, but to my mind the complaint of harassment is unfounded anyway.
Neither of those letters produced the results I need so I then wrote to his employers. Here's why: My ex has reinvented himself after running away from the Costa del sol. He got his job by lying about this past and his profile on his company website makes claims that are untrue. When his angry creditors saw his profile they wrote a letter to the company MD making things clear. To save his neck my ex claimed his ex wife was out to ruin his life and career and so had fabricate the letter herself. To back this up he showed them the harassment complaint he had made. The company must have been concerned that they had not kept to their policy by vetting him properly before employing him. To avoid heads rolling and potential bad publicity, rather than investigate further (using the list of contacts that came with the letter) they accepted his explanation.
When he and his mother did not respond positively to my contact I decided to write to the company to first tell them that I was not responsible for the letter from his creditors, although I had seen it and it was entirely truthful and (believing I was in an advantageous position), to suggest they see to it that he settled matters with his ex wife.
When my ex showed his solicitors that letter as well, they advised him to sue me for libel. They will have believed his well spun stories so naturally think he would have a case. But he would have to prove what I said was untrue and he knows he can't, he won't have a leg to stand on but he doesn't want to let on. That is why I think he has now decided to back down and deal with the finances, at last....(It's been a long hard road I can tell you but I am grateful for the experience as through it I have found the courage to stand up for myself, it takes a lot not to be beaten down by characters like this).
Sorry this is long but I felt I had to give you some background history.
I feel very safe in the knowledge that I am in the right here and have enough evidence to defend myself should my ex ever decide to do such a stupid thing as to attempt to sue me.
My ex's view is very black and white regarding the money. He considers that losing all we had was a case of back luck, nothing to do with him and he does not think that the disparity between our financial situations has any bearing on the matter now. It is a mystery to me why his solicitor goes along with that view. Maybe she is just saying what she knows her client wants to hear.
However, what you have said gives me confidence that an order will be granted in my favour because of this I have decided I won't offer to go to mediation.
Would I be able to use this service for advice during the process? If I did, would I need to pay an additional sum?