she feels she doesn't have parents and if we adopt her we will be her parents. she thinks of me as her mother but her natural mother keeps on taking me to court for access, my grandchild thinks if we adopt her this will stop, as this causes upset to myself and her, she doesn't want the kind of access her mother demands, ie staying over night, and without me. her mother is a drug addict and her house isn't what she is used to. plus she lives in north Lincolnshire and we live in west sussex.. we lived in north Lincolnshire until 2009, we lived 100 yards from her mother and she made no effort to have a relationship with her. its only when she hears we are having fun or doing things that she wants to do that she interjects in a manner that is not healthy swearing and negative behaviour this makes us all upset and if we adopted her this wouldn't be so bad as she threatens me all the time. she gets free legal services and we don't. so she can do this until the cows come home and we have our lives disrupted and costs us money and time we would rather be spending on the continuous nurturing environment she is used to.
as she didn't turn up for court the judge dismissed it but she is free to try again at any time