No one holds power of attorney for them. I am concerned that if someone was to obtain power of attorney for them then social services could apply pressure on this person to fund the care.
A few years ago my wife and I were asked by the uncle if we would be executors of their wills and we said yes after some consideration. But the uncle never confirmed this nor did he tell us where copies of the wills could be obtained. Nor did he tell us anything about investments property ownership etc. We did not feel we could press the point and the years rolled on!!
My wife is a STEP niece so not a direct blood relation. However, there is some bad feeling between aunt and uncle and my wife's step brother who is a blood relation.
I feel like I am stepping into a mine field and need to have some facts at my fingertips so judge how best to proceed.
I want to end up by minimising their liability for care home fees and to give them some control over what happens to them. They are very confused but not yet suffering from full dementia so I need to ensure they understand as best as possible what the options are and to make their own decisions as far as possible.