Thank you for your reply - the problem I have got is points 7 and 8 - if I even attempt to divorce her, she will block contact with my daughter, thus removeing her health treatment and her education teacher both paid by me
This is becasue currently she has 100% of my house and possessions whereas in divorce she would have less, so she sees no benefit in divorcing.
I already ahve a contact order against wife, but the reality is she can just make up excuses eg daughter is ill or doesnt want to see me, and her life will be destroyed due to having no health or education input
Hence I am unable to divorce her
If divorce takes 1 year, and a return to family court another year, my daughters life will be destroyed in that time period if i dont see her and her education and private medical support is removed
She is seriously ill and cannot be one week without me never mind 2 years without serious harm happening to her health and education
She descended into severe autism the last time that happened and it has taken a massive toll on her trust and faith in humanity I cant let that happen again
You sound extremely skilled and experienced - is there any possiblility I can pay you to handle all this?
Its a serious suggestion
Best wishes, Peter