Pc before arresting me said " im trying to help you and that you can use reasonable force to remove an unwanted from property inc your wife" up until then id said what happend which was 1 hand jesture pointing to door and other hand on her top arm to usher to other room while i attended to pet she threw. so i said to pc yes was persudibg her to leave. pc agreed a comprimise and asked if i could stay elsewhere i said yes but then he called sergant who said it was assault and to arrest me
So how will this resolve if im released again on bail but cannot return to my property due to condition set. also i am effectively paying for her to stay and use all services at my property. how do i ever get my property back in that case ? im so frustrated as this is a total in justice. i have no previous convictions. also ive professionally employed for over 30 years and often work at home . there must be a way. can i ask my family to move in whilst this is going on to police my proprty ?
Police asked me to ask my son to make contact to retrieve national security pass i use for work and clothes etc. which i have now. do you think worse case senario i am charged i will be remanded ...im now worried about ruining my carrer as i cannot have anythinh of this sort on disclosure. why are they seeming to take her word over mine anyway...if id had got to phone first and told police she going crazy would the tables have turned . any idea y 2nd interview tomorrow?
Ok well thankyou Jo...i guess i will just ride this out. I dont know what to expect tomorrow but if she dreams up any other allegations shall i reply no comment or just deny. and lastly can i contact you if outcome is worse on here.....or even represent me or recommend a person local to me.
ok thank you Jo, what do i do now ? close this question or leave open invase further advice ...new to this so unsure how it works
Ok, well i will let you know how i get on. Thanks again for this i was going out of my mind and although not the best news i thankyou for your honesty....i will leave good feedback for you hope i will not need this service again.....
How can i get my belongings from property without breaching bail condition. Family has asked for 1 pair of shoes for work to be left outside to collect but wife has refused ...please advise thanks
im confused.. bail set for next week 2nd interview was because she found a bruise that police did not see at time of arrest. inspector shown sympathy today after seeing previous wife history but hands were tied. bail condition says i cant ask anybody to contact her seen as harassment..but i did state today was i ok to ask family to pick things and said yes. last night my son. collected a few things but no shoes for work...will look silly in a suit and trainers ....her contributions for bills etc were due 2 days ago and looks like im going to be shy 700 bills .which i have just cancelled direct debits ive already paid main bills to 1300 pounds and no have very little to live on. she living in my house using my services that im paying for yet not there. just called police and they say leave a message for dc but other than that up to u if u go or send and then we will deal with what happens ???? !
ok but i really dont have any funds whatsoever. u see i pay all bills of which all are in my name and she just puts 700 contribution. i may go to station and wait 5 hrs to ask they get them. its only 1 pair of shoes but at the moment i have none. How can i send notice for belongings if bail says no contact whatsoever. by the way dc saw alleged bruise which was more like a corned beef spot. i then shown him a video of her seft harming which was also registered a few years back.thanks jo and sorry to bother you in a sunday. i will leave a large tip once a can...thanks
duty solicitor advised i cant nor he can write a letter to notify return of possessions with bail condition set at no contact by any means. he said a member of family could notify police stating my son/father is at risk of losing his job as he has no shoes to attend work in. I have made reasonable request to leave shoes outside of property to collect but been refused so am going to ask personally for them and want to avoid potential breach of peace . Is that right Jo ? im fast becoming really confused with the law and does not make any logic or sense. So if i have this right i cant even instruct a solicitor to make requests until after bail dates ?
Yes ive been offered a loan , but all reluctant to give out of principle. I will sort something out its not worth the hassle. Feet are under desk most of day anyway. Family are amazed at how little there is i can do at this stage. I think the law is in desparate need of review as reading between the lines people could get away with pretty much anything. Thanks again Jo for your time ....as i said i will leave a large tip when i can. Enjoy the rest of your day
Visited my mother earlier to find out she has text my wife saying " Darren has asked me to loan him 700 pounds to pay house bills because you have not paid him " wife text back " are you for real your getting nothing and im now going to report u because hes asked you to say that" which to be truthful crossed my mind along those lines but actually didnt. Is my mother in trouble now or am i ?
Just to give you a picture of what im up against and an understanding of the character. The following link is one of many situations ive been in. Please excuse the language but i would like your take on this. This was an occasion when she was to meet a hairdressing appointment because she was telling my mother how ugly she felt. Mother paid for a hair do telling her she looked fine but treat yourself. You will see the anxiety and how quickly she becomes aggressive...also note in her hand bag a full box of coco damol.
Ok, Thanks Jo, it can be opened with quicktime player but like you say , youve probably seen it all before. I just find it hard to believe this goes on and people who need to see it dont. Long wait now until Saturday. I want to pay you on the 15th my next pay day but how will i be able to do this ? just open another question with you and add to tip ?
I thought i worked long hours until now. Much appreciated you taking the time to answer my questions Jo.
Sorry to bother you again but situation is now critical. Came home to my mother today and a chap came to me holding papers and asked " are you duncan lewis" i said no. he said yes you are and you live here. i no i dont who are you. he said this is ur car disclosing reg. i said no wrong again its my mothers( which it is) he follwed me to the door still maintained im duncan lewis. unfortunately my mother came out with grandson to see the fuss and said to chap stop saying hes duncan his name is ***** ***** Which followed by papers being thrown in doorway passing mothes face landing into my nephew. Papers are a court order without respon notice to keep me out of property until aug 2016 !!!! attached is a heap of twisted words and outright lies about the ins and outs of my time with wife. its 10 yrs worth so cant repeat here. but she admits her condition but blames me and also used the local doc she still under plus local new job she has is close to home and cant afford car etc. also obviously im jack the ripper and she in fear of her life. she pushed 350 pounds half or norm into my account today not sure y though but least i can pay my son and mother for car etc. my daughter has shown me a new profile picture of wife on facebook. its shows her smiling her face off with a new hair do ...and i know thats 100+ .wearing a sleevless top showing bare upper arms which clearly show no brusing which is where i admitted i ushered her to the door. the pic is time stamped and is the sunday show told police she has new evidence eg bruises. probably an hr or so after the left. controlling was mentioned amongst how i deprived her children. but i have evidence i renovated her property and her kids bedrooms and bought them both laptops and. computers etc also before and after. there are elements of truth in her statements but its a very twisted story. she claims im a lot better off then her and have a place to stay as she does not get on with her parents...because of me ! but fact is ..her parent had dis owned her long ago because of previous trouble with her b4 i met her. in fact within a few months of me meeting her ...her parents started to come round and i got on with them very well....until another drama took place and i had row for not being supportive and they disowned her again. this is totally unfair and is an outright pack of lies. i cant believe the justice system is so shallow. ive had to leave my mother now to not subject her to anymore. my children hav been affected also. she states she can pay mortgage by getting a lodger and that there is plenty room at my mothers for me. in the meantime i cant even afford a solicitor even though im 200% certain i can counter every single paragraph in her statement with evidence....unless shes burnt it which is y i told police i want my belongings. paper evidence going back 10 years will be hard to recover electronically. Do you have any more advice please Jo ?
Sorry i just couldn't deal with it all last night and didnt get back to you. ive been up all night worried sick. ive just looked again and the order say im to produce evidence on 3rd sep in a 10 minute slot. but also say it must be done 48hrs before the hearing 11am this wed. else the order will carry unchallenged. its bank hol mon so how can i acheive this i am back to station for bail at 4pm today also. do you know of a barrister who is available to represent me? in person ...im struggling here and extremely frustrated as i have evidence but either cant get it from property if its still there or do not know how to put it together. i am now desparate and extremely worried. thanks
If i had made contact by phone ( not mine ) before i had time to seek advice from a solicitor but the non molestation order was issued is that a breach of order ? thanks
even if i had not been advised at the time what the order was or what it meant. i mean i didnt read properly and left until id spoken to a solicitor ?
Can my wife still get an occupancy order if i have evidence she has in fact assaulted me. eg video and what happens if they believe her allegations of assault but no evidence ?