Initially he wanted for the kids to go to London every 3 or 4 weekends. I have discouraged this as it will completely tired the children out. We are now looking at him having the children during school holidays - he asked for one week at a time.
There is no court order in place.
My ex was threatening going to court until we spoke today. I am hoping that he now agrees that the children travelling up & back to London at weekends would be too tiring for them and that the half term/holiday route would be better. I calculate that the kids have holidays totalling 17 weeks per year.
I also said that:
- I would need to visit the house in which my ex is living to ensure that it is safe for the children;
- meet the new girlfriend to ensure that she is kind and willing to spend time with the children (she does not have any children of her own); and
- arrange for the children to meet the new girlfriend on the Isle of Wight prior to going to them staying in her house in London.
Do you agree that the above requests are not unreasonable?
My ex is a prolific liar. He was recently sacked for gross misconduct from the police for lying to his employer. I am not going to allow the children to be taken to London just because my ex says he has secure living accommodation with a woman that he is co-habiting with.
The children's safety and emotional well being is far more important than a "one glove fits all" approach assumed by the courts when it comes to PR. My ex has had little contact with the children for the last 3 years and no contact since May. He cannot be trusted and if this went to court I would have a catalogue of evidence to support that my ex cannot be trusted. I would never stop my ex from seeing the children but surely the children's well being comes before any assumptions?