I use an online dating site and recently a girl on there wrote a series of mocking posts that indicated that she knew a few details about my personal life. I was alarmed by this and it transpired that she had what she described a "mutual friend". Anyway, it soon become clear that she had a source that fed her with some reasonably private information about me ... she let it be known that it came from someone who went to watch a small local football team that I also watch. Today I received a message from her (unsolicited, I had ended my communication with her) stating that her source had been to a football game this weekend on a train where he had a great time but it was a "shame that The Weasel turned up". She mocked that she wondered who that person was speaking about. There were around 20-30 of us who travelled and this of course made me ponder who this person could be. During the train trip, there was a gentleman, Mark Winter, who travelled, who I know does not like me, that was telling all his friends he was refusing to travel in our train coach because I was there. So with that in mind I thought that this person was probably one of the roots. That does not really bother me. However, what does bother me is this morning - this gentleman has posted on his Facebook page to not only his 500-plus friends (many of who live in the local community and support this small football club with me) the following: ***"So who are your real team?" asked an affable Scouser outside the pub near Liverpool Lime Street station. Pointing to 50-odd Dover fans inside the pub, I replied: "Does this look like we're pretending then, mate?" Cracking day out, even though The Weasel turned up.** He was then asked by one of his "friends" in the thread that followed: ** I hope your not referring to me as 'the weasel' mr winter!! ** His reply was as follows: "Don't be silly, Mrs Pawley. ***** ***** joined us on the train."** I am ***** *****. I am well-known at the football club and within the local community.
I am a football writer for a national newspaper, was a journalist for the local newspaper that serves the Dover community, and been supporting this team since I was 14.
He has not only made the reference about "The Weasel" ... he has also named me! In my mind, this is defamation of character. Mark Winter is also well-known at Dover Athletic FC as a former writer for a local newspaper, which was a rival to my former local newspaper serving the same club and town.
His opinion is respected and believed by many in that community so I am very upset that he is making a statement that brings into question my good name in the minds of right-thinking people.
And that is not to mention the hurt that this quite spiteful pubic comment has made to me.
When you notice people behaving strangely around you, it does make you wonder if their view of me has been lowered. I know he has slandered me on several occasions but have no evidence to support that at the moment - but the Facebook post is clear evidence.
The very fact that even on an online dating site I am getting a message repeating this "weasel" slur, surely goes beyond just a bit of harmless name calling in a pub. This post is there for all to see. Do I have any legal leg to stand on here? Sorry for the perhaps "round the houses" outline of what has happened ... but I wanted to put it all into context. Many thanks, ***** *****