He has been in hospital for three years followed by 6 months in care home and last 6 months supported housing so we have been separate due to his health only. We still have been in a relationship up until 3 weeks ago when he left to stay with his sister for a few days. I became worried but have been unable to contact him. His sister is uncooperative and will not tell me if he is ok. We have not argued or even separated. I have not received divorce papers but apparently they are on their way. I have been removed as next of kin and have no way of knowing how he is. We have two children. I think he is probably unwell. If his sister has power of attorney can she influence him to sign for divorce? Surely this cannot happen without him speaking to me? He has not said that he does not love me, he has not said anything. I think his sister plans to take our money for herself and be in charge of his care and finances. Health and social services are being unhelpful so far although I have cared for him to the best of my ability for 21yrs through many serious hospital admissions.
What are the examples of unreasonable behaviour? I have not been verbally or physically abusing him. I have not committed adultery I let him see the children whenever he wanted. I am not alcoholic or on drugs. I still love him but it can be difficult to look after someone who has needed specialist care and I have the children to keep safe. If the court rules that there are no grounds does it all get cancelled?
Am I within my rights to contact his solicitor to see if he has informed them of his condition? How long does it take for the petition to come back from court?
Are you saying yes I can contact and inform his solicitor? Can I do this myself or is it better to go through my own solicitor? And will his financial/child visiting demands be outlined in the first paperwork I receive and do I have to agree or can I object? Can I insist on marriage guidance before proceeding further or will the court decide if he can refuse?
Finally, if he the meantime he is admitted to hospital or deemed to lack mental capacity by the GP/Consultant will the divorce be postponed/cancelled?