Thank you for your question
My name is Clare I shall do my best to help you but I need some further information first.
Is there any reason why you do not wish to have a divorce in England?
In six months time you can apply for a divorce based on the fact that you have lived apart for five years and your ex will not be able to fight it.
You can then apply to the court for the financial settlement - and the English Court has more discretion in terms of how assets are divided.
Having said that I believe that the Scottish system is a little more predictable and it may be that that would work better for you and it could be easier to enforce any Order.
In fairness most solicitors in the Border towns are experienced in both jurisdictions
Please ask if you need further details