Thank you for your question
My name is Clare
I shall do my best to help you but I need some further informtaion first
Does her doctor/consultant agree?
What is she doing that is worrying you?
Do you wish to stop caring for your mother?
has your mother signed a Power of Attorney?
My apologies - I had not received your earlier response.
Have you spoken to the GP - will they support you?
I am sorry - I am not sure why this question fell off my list but your last query seems to have brought it back.
I am sorry but your options are very limited in this.
Your ultimate argument/threat is one I suspect that you will not make - that unless things are changed to support your needs (which are reasonable) then you will no longer be able to care for your mother
This is the only argument that will be listened to I am afraid
Unless the GP will agree and confirm in writing that it is not good for your mother to be away for more than two days then I fear that the situation will not change and until your mother is held to lack capacity Social Services will continue to say that she may do what she pleases.
On a practical level you could attempt to reason with your sister or - again if you feel that you can do this - simply tell her that if she does not return your mother on the agreed day then you assume she will keep her for longer so that you can have a rest.
I am sorry I know I have no good news for you - and I am awed by the way that you have cared for your mother - but sadly whilst she is still deemed to have mental capacity and your sister remains unreasonable there is no way through
Please ask if you need more details
You are very welcome - and you are correct it is very unfair