Have they just made these accusations verbally or in writing or via solicitors?
I assume that your grandfather is still alive?
This help that he has given, what kind of value is it and are they loans or gifts?
Would be the total value of your grandfather’s estate when he eventually dies, property, savings et cetera?
Could it be the case but your grandfather and grandmother were looked after by your mother and hence they looked after you and because your aunt didn’t have much to do with her parents as they got older, they are now jealous?
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Meanwhile, can you please tell me exactly what they are threatening by the emails and telephone calls?
You say that your grandfather has shown signs of dementia. Do you mean that he has good days and bad days and would he be capable of saying, to a solicitor for example (if he was left on his own with that person) that he knew how much he had given and that he had given it quite willingly because of all the things that had been done for him and his wife?
If you can get your grandfather to speak to a solicitor, on his own, without any of you present, on one of his lucid days, where he would admit that he freely gave all this money but hasn’t got a clue how much it was but it was a substantial amount, that would be fantastic. I would keep that information that the solicitor would have on file in reserve in case there are ever any court proceedings.
My suggestion would then to be simply ignore everything they complain about and are saying and if they feel so strongly about this, let them issue legal proceedings. If they continue to bombard you with emails and phone calls, simply ask them to stop, and if they don’t stop, call the police and ask the police to warn them under the Protection from Harassment Act. They cannot simply keep bombarding you with accusations. They either have to issue proceedings or shut up.
Alternatively, the solicitor can write to them telling them of his findings when he met your grandfather and that he was quite lucid and clearly understood everything that had gone on and there is no allegation of undue influence.
At this stage in time, what the complainants would be looking at is an allegation of abuse of a vulnerable adult if someone was getting grandfather to pay the money and he either didn’t know what he was doing or pressure was being put on him to do so. If someone took money from the account, without grandfather’s consent, then it’s theft. I appreciate none of that applies here but I’m just telling you what the allegations actually are. They are both police issues although the complainants would probably be better starting with social services. I’m letting you have this for your own information of course.
Can I clarify anything for you?
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We can still exchange emails if you wish.
PS. Invite them to come and see grandfather on his own and then he can tell them in his own words.
Provided there is no allegation that your grandfather was not in good mental health when he wrote the letter, it’s useful.
Matters like this are decided on the balance of probabilities and hence, your version of events only has to be slightly more believable than the complainants and who would succeed in court. You have this letter saying that you could have help and they presumably do not have any such letter. Your argument would be that you screamed and they helped. However there is one little phrase in that which is quite powerful and that is “if ever you need more” which implies that they had given you help and they were happy to give you more. I think that little phrase is probably the most important in the letter.
I am pleased to have helped. In very extreme cases it is potentially possible but from what you have said, I think that she probably has more chance of flying to the moon next week.
If it’s on exactly the same subject, you can ask on this thread and there is a facility to pay a voluntary bonus (entirely voluntary) which is always appreciated.
If it’s on a different matter altogether however it’s better if you open a new thread.
As you say it’s a development, continue on here and if you’re happy with the advice, just use the bonus facility.
Everyone has a chance to defend themselves.
The doctor will give your mother the patient records anyway because they are confidential to your grandfather.
Just because he may have vascular dementia doesn’t necessarily mean that he wasn’t in control of his faculties when he did whatever he was doing. People very often have lucid days and other days where they literally don’t recognise anyone.
This would hinge on the solicitor’s evidence and any medical evidence produced to the court.
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