have you done this before?
Either in this relationship or in others?
Ok. So when did you last call the police to a domestic squabble apart from this time?
Ok. So when did you last call the police to a domestic squabble?
And that was the only time? No other calls to family rows at all? Even involving other relatives.
I would be quite surprised if they even have a record of a row twenty years ago.
Oh yes, they will probably. They have a policy of summonsing essentially because so many complainants are wasting their time although actually you don't seem to be a candidate.
What did you allege on this occasion? What did you say happened?
What is the common assault?
What is suppose to have happened?
Verbal abuse is a non issue. That is just a relationship issue. That is not to say it is acceptable but it is not a police matter.
The reality is that they could summons you. That is their current policy.
That said, they do not in every case. You do have a bit of history but it is very minimal and I would be surprised if they even knew about that other report.
These allegations are large in number but not the worst assaults.
The reality is that they know you are reluctant now anyway so there is nothing that can be done about it. It might have been better not to alert them to the fact but that can't be undone now.
If you have told them you are reluctant you may as well make a retraction statement in the hope that it is effective.
If they will not move on that point then you will have to decide whether you are going to answer the summons or not.
However, they are very unlikely to allow him to return home until the matter is resolved.
Can I clarify anything for you?
I don't do immigration or visa work. He wouldn't be subject to automatic deportation as he will not get long enough.
However, it is fair to say that this report probably has disadvantaged him.
You have to get more than 12 months to be subject to automatic deportation.
I would imagine it probably would be non custodial.
That doesn't mean it isn't a disadvantage and also will be used against you if you have children who come to the attention of social services for other reasons.
I would have expected a low level community order.
It is the potential impact on his immigration status that is the issue and the long term impact.
I don't do immigration or visa work.