Thanks for confirming. Firstly, based on the figures you have provided a £70,000 lump sum settlement will not appear to be a fair settlement at all for the following reasons:
-You have a short marriage, but this is extended by the fact that you have been in a relationship for 13 years. The court can consider this a long marriage if there was a period of cohabitation prior to the marriage.
-You have two children together
-The home has approximately £400,000 equity
-Her earning capacity is higher than yours and you are now nearing retirement
-The other assets/investments are not substantial and are almost equalised between you.
Given the above, the main matrimonial assets will be the matrimonial home and potentially the pensions. Given that you are nearing retirement your capacity to increase your pension are very low whereas hers is high given her young age and earning potential - you may therefore have grounds to pursue a share of her pension or to be compensated from the matrimonial assets.
It will depend on what the court considers matrimonial assets but the settlement she is proposing is between 18-25% of the assets and would not be in your interest to agree to this based on your figures.
Given that it appears that there has not been detailed disclosure of finances, you will both need to provide each other with full and frank financial and income disclosure, as well as disclosure of your reasonable needs. The Court's starting point is a 50-50 split of all matrimonial assets and ensuring that both your needs are met in relation to both assets and income. The criteria considered is:
1. The income, earning capacity, property and other financial resources which each of the parties to the marriage has or is likely to have in the foreseeable future, including in the case of earning capacity any increase in that capacity which it would in the opinion of the court be reasonable to expect a party to the marriage to take steps to acquire;
2. The financial needs, obligations and responsibilities which each of the parties to the marriage has or is likely to have in the foreseeable future;
3. The standard of living enjoyed by the family before the breakdown of the marriage;
4. The age of each party to the marriage and the duration of the marriage;
5. Any physical or mental disability of either of the parties to the marriage;
6. The contributions which each of the parties has made or is likely in the foreseeable future to make to the welfare of the family, including any contribution by looking after the home or caring for the family;
7. The conduct of each of the parties, if that conduct is such that it would in the opinion of the court be inequitable to disregard it;
8. In the case of proceedings for divorce or nullity of marriage, the value to each of the parties to the marriage of any benefit which, by reason of the dissolution or annulment of the marriage, that party will lose the chance of acquiring.
Initially this should be attempted through mediation - you can find independent mediators here: http://www.familymediationcouncil.org.uk If a settlement is agreed this can be submitted to court under a consent order (together with a D81 form outlining your respective financial positions).
If mediation does not progress you should then proceed with an application to court under Form A for financial relief once the divorce petition has been issued.
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