Thank you for your question
My name is Clare
I shall do my best to help you but I need some further information first
Where are you living at the moment and is there any reason that the children should leave if your wife does?
My apologies for the delay
In terms of starting divorce proceedings there is no requirement for mediation first I am afraid - she can issue whenever she wishes.
However mediation is a prerequisite before apply for the financial part of the divorce to be dealt with.Given the length of the relationship the starting point for division of the capital assets will be 50/50 - so eventually it is likely that some of the properties will have to be transferred to her so that she can do with them what she wishes.
There is no reason why you shoudl not live in the apartment attached to the matrimonial home while matters are being decided.
However your only real option is sim,ply to move in - it will then be up to your wife how pigheaded she wishes to be.
If she decides to move out then that is HER problem and not yours - you can make it plain to the children that there is no reason for them to go if they do not wish to do so.
With regard to the PI settlement in view of the extent of the other assets it is unlikely that she will have a share of it
I hope that this is of assistance - please ask if you need further details
Your eldest child is not relevant so far as the court is concerned.
He is an adult who can live wherever he wishes.
In fact at 14 a child is generally the one to decide which parent they live with - although legally the age is 16 at*****will not gainsay their wishes.
In the long term it is likely that the court will order the sale of the property as there woudl be amply funds for you each to purchase a two bedroom property.
In the short term they will not intervene in the dispute about where you live