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It sounds like you are trying to do a god job in difficult circumstances with your grandson.
Please may I ask:
- Is the placement with you long term? do you have any type of order?eg special guardianship order?
- what is the position of the parents?
- what help and support are the local authority offering you?
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Please accept my apologies for my delay in responding to you.
There is a clear need for suport for your grandson given the circumstances.
The worry that I have is that if the placement with you, being his granparents, is not sustainable, and the risk to his other siblings aswell as the mothers issues are too great then foster care might have to be conisdered as an option in the future, if there are no other options or relatives that can care.
In relation to the current position, it is important that it is raised at the next child protection meeting as to the ongoing issues with your grandsons behaviour.
It does not sound like the police have been involved in your case and it is clear that you are trying to help in difficult circumstances.
You can certainy ask the local authority to provide extra help and support to assist you to care for your grandson. It is after all the local authorities main role to try and keep children within their birth families, when it is feasible to do so. For dealing with such difficult behaviour you need to be asking for the help of a family support worker to undertake some work with you all in respect of dealing with difficut behaviour.
Dependant on your grandsons presentation generally, including at school, then it may quite well be that further intervention is required in respect of his management. You need to explore all avenues including speaking to his GP about the specialist support that might be availabe for him in your area so that a referral can be made. The school may also be able to offer him counselling and support.
If the placement with you both does continue and it is later envisaged to become a long term placement - then you might want to consider putting the local authority on notice that you want to be his special guardians. This would involve an application to the court once you have given the local authority 3 months notice but taking such an action and obtaining such an order would mean that a support plan would be offered to you. This is not only just monetary payments each month but also a holistic package which can include respite etc.
Let me know if I can help yoou further or clarify anything for you.
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It appears as though the Child Protection Conference was of the view that the instance was inappropriate chastisement.
I have heard before that parents used to bite a child back if they were bitten - to teach then how it feels. I am not saying that this is what happened in your case but this too would also be deemed as inappropriate.
The reality is that the event has happened and it has come to the local authorities attention so it has to be addressed.
It might be that they offer your wife work around appropriate chastisement. Whatever is offered - its best to take up.
Although I dont want to sound against you - what you need to know is that if the local authority thought that the placement with you was unworkable - then they might be looking at foster care.
The local authority are looking at things from the view of your grandson and it might quite well be that his actions were the root cause but its still smething that has now happened. Once it can be demonstrated that there are no such further incidents then the catergory off physical abuse will likley come off. Its better to work with the local authority to this aim rather than against it.
let me know if I can help you further