Hi, thank you for your question. Just a bit more information required to fully assist you:
-How old are the children?
-What are the exact arrangements have there been for your ex-partner to see the children under the order and has he complied with the arrangements?
-What two families and information is he referring to?
Thanks for confirming. In relation to your concerns that he will apply to court for custody - you should not be fearful of this as it is not an easy thing for him to do if there are no serious concerns about the children being in your care. The issues you have said about what he alleges is emotional abuse would not be grounds to change custody to him. If he did seek to do this he will nee to apply to court and it will be for a CAFCASS officer to investigate and make recommendations, and for the court to make the final decision.
1. The wishes and feelings of the child concerned2. The child’s physical, emotional and educational needs3. The likely effect on the child if circumstances changed as a result of the courts decision4. The child’s age, sex, backgrounds and any other characteristics which will be relevant to the court’s decision5. Any harm the child has suffered or may be at risk of suffering6. Capability of the child’s parents (or any other person the courts find relevant) at meeting the child’s needs7. The powers available to the court in the given proceedingsI hope this assists you. If you found this information helpful please provide a positive rating using the stars at the top of this page. I will not be credited for your question without a positive rating. Thank you
At the moment it may not be worthwhile unless he is seeking to disrupt the arrangement and not comply with the order
If no concerns have been raised by the school and there appears to be no issues regarding his behaviour then this would not be considered neglect. If it is so serious he can seek for the court to make a direction for a specialist to undertake an assessment.
The father's partner and the father should not be asking the children questions and engaging them in adult conversations as that itself will likely be treated as emotional abuse.
If the only thing that he is alleging is you asking the children not to share information with the father about matters that do not concern him then you should not be worried and he will have no grounds to pursue a change of arrangement only on this basis.
What is the issue with the holidays? Also, does the court order specifically state that the children are to live with you or that you have a residence order?
Does the court order state that there is a residence order to you? Can you attach it using the paperclip icon here please?
It is difficult to confirm what it should be without having sight of the order, but it seems to be clear that he should be having overnight contact every other weekend from 5pm on Friday to 5pm on Saturday and there appears to be no agreement to any contact between them outside of this - therefore if his usual contact falls in the school holidays he should see the children, if it does not then he should not be having contact.
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