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I am a Solicitor and will assist you.
I am sorry to hear about the difficulties that you are experiencing with your daughters father.
Please may I ask:
- how regularly is her father letting her down?
- does she enjoy spending the time with her father?
- are there any child protection concerns in respect of the father? is his age an issue?
- what are the times he has your daughter during the week? and every other weekend?
In respect of child maintenance - is the father working? does he have any assets?
Thank you for your response.
It is a real shame that his commitment seems to be lacking in respect of your daughter - especially since you have take the step of moving closer.
My concern is that there is no court order that can be made to make him a better father. What I mean by that is - that even if there was a court order saying that he should spend time with your daughter on particular days and times - there would be no sanction for him if he didn't comply.
With the above being said - it is still so very important that your daughter has the stability of a routine of knowing when she is going to spend time with her father. It will affect her emotionally and she will feel let down if she is expecting him and he doesn't show up.
It is worth expressing this to him. Ask him to clarify what he can commit too and if he continues not to attend - then he will have to prove his commitment before he can spend time with her again - to prove he is committed
I would suggest that you consider referring your case to family mediation. There are lots of family mediation services and there will be one local to you. If you google family mediation in your area and then you can give them a call to self refer and get the ball rolling.
Mediation will help you both try and talk through the issues, including the issue about his lack of accommodation and come up with a plan that is best for your daughter.
In respect of maintenance - if he is not paying regularly - then I suggest that you make a claim to the Child Maintenance Service. They will be able to calculate what he is due to pay and collect the payments from him if he continues to be difficult.
Let me know if I can help you further.
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