It is nothing to do with an employer what you do in your private life regardless of how large the company is provided doesn’t conflict with what the company is doing. You are quite correct in that respect.
The accounts system needs to be revisited. It is obviously not a recognised package because recognised accounts package will not allow anything to be deleted. You have to put a contra in someone cancels something, to offset the original one or issue a credit note. It avoids the problem that you now have.
The majority of people who take money either take small amounts as some kind of kick or the ones who take large amounts take it because they are in financial trouble. This is a general observation it is remarkably accurate. Hence, the fact that your bank statements are perfect and you have a good credit history would really help if ever this was referred to the police.
Theft is defined as “the dishonest appropriation of property, belonging to another, with the intention of permanently depriving”. Hence, this does not fit the definition of theft simply because you had the money at home instead of handing it over.
You don’t need to tell me that you hanging on to the money is not good practice. It should be handed over immediately to the company and it should be the company returns it. However, once again, just because you may hang onto that pending a refund, does not make it theft.
With regard to the accusations he is making to you and your mother, and bombarding you with telephone calls, these now amount to harassment and harassment is a police matter. It’s up to you of course whether you decide to refer this to the police or not but, if he’s going to refer it to the police, you might want to get your version of events in first.
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