Thank you for your question
My name is Clare
I shall do my best to help you but I need some further information first
How much is the house worth?
What other assets are there (including pensions) and what income do you each have?
Are you willing to start divorce proceedings?
Sadly the only way that you can be sure of receiving your share of the assets (including as you so rightly point out his pension) is through the financial side of divorce proceedings.
You need to start the proceedings first
Then apply for the financial side to be dealt with
I am sorry - I know that this is not what you want but sadly it is the only option available if your ex will not attend meditation
Please ask if you need further details
It is certainly the starting point.
It is possible that the court could move from that - especially if your housing needs make it necessary - but they will not move far from it
Yes it can be done if both sides agree
I have to say that your friend may well be right.
You may have to start divorce proceedings to concentrate his mind.