Hi, thank you for your question. Please confirm:
-What is the size of the home (bedrooms)?
-What is the value of the home and outstanding mortgage?
-What other assets and pensions do you both have?
-What are your respective incomes?
Thank you - are there any other properties or assets?
Thank you. Firstly, the child arrangements must be in the interests of the children. Shared arrangements are now very common but usually the parent with the time to deal with the day to day care needs will be their main carer, but there is nothing stopping you proposing shared arrangements as he has suggested.
In relation to the home, again it is usual for the main carer to retain the family home to care for the children, however, it may be considered unreasonable to keep given the large size and it may be more appropriate for it to be sold, and for the equity to be divided between you to allow you both to rehouse in smaller accommodation.
In terms of the domestic abuse, this will unlikely be considered by the court in relation to the finances, but regarding the children if there is a risk to the children because of this then it will be relevant when deciding the arrangements.
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