Thank you for clarifying that for me.
This sounds to me like a child protection conference.
This a meeting where all the agencies and you get together and discuss the issues and a plan in put in place to help protect and promote the interests of both children.
There are various levels of interventions, children in need is the lowest level, child protection is the next level, then pre proceedings and then court proceedings.
In relation to children in need and child protection (and even pre proceedings to a degree) the lcoal authority are of the positon that they can work with you and keep the children with you and with help and support both children can be safeguarded and the childresn needs met.
Its best to be open and honest about all the difficulties that you have had with your daughter and all the measures that you have taken so far to promote the well being of both children. The team should be able to come up with a lan to support you such as maybe some extra support for your daughter.
Working with the local authority usually means that both children can stay with you.
If the local authority do not think that the childrens needs can be met they may decide to issue court proceedings for a care or supervision order in respect of one or both of the children. If they do this then the Judge will decide the outcome. You will automatically get free legal aid if the local authority do go to pre proceedings level or if they issue proceedings. You wont get free legal aid under children in need or child protection.
Even if the local authority do issue proceedings then a Judge can decide its still safe for both children to be cared for at home with help and support from the local authority. If your daughetrs behaviour was to spiral and continued placement was not in her best interests then this does not mean that your sons needs would not be met with you.
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