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My ( Spanish) partner is 62y.o. Has been retired for 15 yrs.

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My ( Spanish) partner is 62y.o. Has been retired for 15 yrs. He is dependant on me but I am finding his low mood, negative attitude and some habits are beginning to distance me. He went for a blood test, and all appears to be ok. His children and I thought that maybe he had sugar problems but no. I asked him to ask for a testosterone check ( no love or even cuddles for about 8yrs! ) the Doc didn't think it was necessary, thank you! He used to always tell jokes and loved to laugh but when his Mother went into a nursing home and subsequently died, I think something happened to him. His wierd habit is that he can never buy just one of anything! 3 bottles of (his) body cream , he's just found a liking for Ribena,
he bought 4 bottles yesterday! While shopping the other day, he picked up two jars of marmalade , he got quite angry and sulky when I put one back! I am in the UK recovering from a bad dose of Pneumonia but I've sent him back home for a few weeks. His kids understand why I've had enough but are begging me to put up with him. He doesn't see anything wrong and it's impossible to discuss with him. Apparently when he was divorcing his first wife, he was suicidal. His ex-wife is sympathetic with me! I think his problem is
not just for marriage guidance.
Submitted: 3 years ago.
Category: Medical
Expert:  Dr Basu replied 3 years ago.

Mysticdoc :

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Mysticdoc :

Hi there,

I am Mysticdoc, experienced Internal Medicine Specialist.

I am here to help you with your concerns.

Mysticdoc :

Sorry to hear about your partner.

Mysticdoc :

testosterone deficiency, thyroid gland disorder are two conditions that can affect mental health.

JACUSTOMER-cvlp25wy- : What are the symptoms of testosterone def. or thyroid gland disorder.?
Mysticdoc :

thyroid gland disorder hypo can cause depression, mood swings, rough skin, weight gain, lack of energy, fatigue, sexual dysfunction.

Mysticdoc :

testosterone deficiency can cause lack of energy, sleep disturbances, lack of sex drive, mood swings,

JACUSTOMER-cvlp25wy- : What are the symptoms of testosterone and/ or thyroid gland disorder?
Mysticdoc :

He shoudl also be seen by a psychiatrist.

Mysticdoc :

thyroid gland disorder hypo can cause depression, mood swings, rough skin, weight gain, lack of energy, fatigue, sexual dysfunction.

testosterone deficiency can cause lack of energy, sleep disturbances, lack of sex drive, mood swings,

JACUSTOMER-cvlp25wy- : OK. Thank you
Mysticdoc :

very welcome

Mysticdoc :

there are medications to treat his symptoms even if he does not have any hormonal problem.

Mysticdoc :

He just needs to be evaluated bya psychiatrist.

JACUSTOMER-cvlp25wy- : Would the purchasing problem be connected? I suppose it's maybe a separate problem. My problem is to get him to a psychiatrist!
Mysticdoc :

Yes purchasing problem also can be corrected.

Mysticdoc :

Probably he has bipolar disorder and he will benefit from a mood stabilizer for example.

Mysticdoc :

But first, serum TSH level for thyroid, and testosterone level should be checked.

JACUSTOMER-cvlp25wy- : But wouldn't that make him more miserable - the mood stabiliser?
Mysticdoc :

no --that will balance his mood --not too much or too less

Mysticdoc :

and also medication can be used to boost his sexual function.

JACUSTOMER-cvlp25wy- : Ok , I won't press him on the sex side( waited too long now) and I'm 69 but a hug is good for everybody! I'll try and work out a plan with his kids! Thank you ,
Mysticdoc :

very welcome

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