This is Dr. David
what specific questions do you have?
This is complicated (f course!)
My name is XXXXX XXXXX - lol!
I think I should describe the background?
Tell me: are you able to work with those keywords?
I ask because I have been refused twice
refused for what?
I guess not
oh, refused help. Because the therapists disapproved of my lifestyle.
polygamy is multiple people in marriage.
you want to have multiple wifes?
well, polyamory then
no no! I had best explain
you want to love multiple women?
But the other keyword: M/s. Are you familiar with it?
no I do not. Please wait for the whole picture.
I guess it was a bad start.
master and slave?
what is your opinion of it?
I don't have the whole picture.
OK. M/s is where a dominant man (or woman) takes "ownership" and control of a submissive woman (or man - works both ways)
so you want to be the submissive?
you want to be the master/
I live in UK but also have an office and apartment in Trenton NJ. Many years ago I had a woman live in my apartment. When I visited there were relationship issues. I told her I could only do this if I were in total control.
And so I discovered my dominant side.
When I got back to England I sought out a similar relationship. After some failures I ended up with 4 slaves. For health reasons 3 went away over the years and I have one slave who has been with me for 8 years. Don't think too badly of the word slave. It signifies ownership and control but is entire consensual.
Having had 4 women at one time I wanted to return to having at least two. I do not know why I feel the need for 2 women. That is one of my questions.
you want to know how you can find another servant?
About M/s some more. Many people associate it with BDSM. That is not me. I do not want to beat my treasured women.
No, please wait, its complex
I had a second woman who was not happy and I let her go.
BTW My woman is 45 (37 when she came) and we are very happy. Last year I looked for a new girl. I came across a young black girl. She is only 26. Naturally it seemed wrong and I refused, continuing to talk to older women. But she was very persuasive. Now I have her also.
But I have her in a flat in Cambridge and she visits me regularly and has her own room in my house. This is because I need to avoid problems with my daughter who I have access since my divorce years ago
Obvious judgement is I am a dirty old man who would of course want to screw a young woman, but the relationship is more than that. She is almost like a daughter. She is very intelligent and I am arranging for her further education as well asn employing her in my company. I am making great progress. So she is like a young wife and a daughter at the same time. Totally sick, but that is how it is.
And my final question is: what the hell does she get out of it? Why has she never formed an relationship with a younger man. She doesn't get on with guys her own age. Her previous lover was also my age and died.
she might fancy older men who are established who can help with her work and carrier as well.
perhaps she is also looking for an older master.
I want to understand this so I can make it work. I should mention that my no.1 girl was very jealous but I have been working on that and she is gradually accepting the younger girl.
She is not really submissive as such, but accepts my total authority.
Why would she want to be with a man 3 times her age? Why can't she form a relationship with a younger man. I have tried to point her in that direction but she doesnt want it
that's the whole picture
If you can offer any guidance I would be willing to keep contact long term with emails.
perhaps she wants direction and wants to be submissive to an older man who can help her with her education and employment
we can not contact clients here through private emaisl
only through these chat windows.
OK. That is a very practical analysis, and simple. Is the answer that simple. What is in her psyche to want this? What will happen to her when I die? What can I do to help her form a proper relationship with a young man?
I think helping her with education and work experience can help her in the future.
with more time and maturation, hopefully she will come into her own and she will then be able to have a relationship with a man later on
Is this anything you have come across before?
Your answer is what I already know. I am looking for something deeper.
I will opt out to let another expert help you.
good luck to you.
I guess I was foolish to think I could get advice. I could have bought her a bracelet for the same money. Ah well. Thanks for your attention.