His own company went bankrupt 2 years ago and the business he started with an ex-employee has just stopped trading. He blames me for both failures. He has no friends. He is working now but I don't know where. He won't even tell the mother of his daughter where he is living.
He says there is nothing worng with him it is us.
I have asked that if I get help for me will he come with me the answer is NO.
When asked what we have done wrong quote"If you don't know I'm not going to tell you"
Do I just give him what he seems to want? Do I go along with his dilussion that we don't care, noone cares? Or do I face him and try to force him to accept this is unture and we want to help?
He says he wants to be left alone. When he is left alone he sends strange text messages to his daughter's mother. He tells his daughter lies about how now he needs us we don't want to even talk to him. Christmas is a nightmare and it's the same every year. We all invite him, he ignores us ( even his daughter) he doesn't show up and then spends the next year complaining to his daughter about how lonely he was.
He seems to need his lfe to be harsh and without love.