if she does something very bold like slap annother child i give her a warning and if she does it again i then do 'time out or the naughty step' where i sit her usually in the hall outside the room and tell her she is going to time out as she was bold, then she sits there for 2 mins. after that i ask her to say sorry and i tell her i love her and give her a hug. but its the general misbehaving during the day like e.g. refusing to come downstairs or jumping about car and not getting into her car seat. i usually threaten to leave her there ( i never would) or else threaten to give her favourite toy to another child. i hate that type of parenting though. i think it is very detrimental. but i dont know what to do?
Thank you i knew that i was doing in certain situations wasnt correct. I also do a please coming downstairs now and if she says no i usually say i am going to count to 5. do you think i could say your part first followed by the counting to 5 to give her a chance?
Any advice on how how to deal with tantrums ? eg if i say no you cant have something sometimes she will just throw a tantrum. is it best to ignore ? or is that just giving the impression that i dont care ?
thank you for advice,
one last bit of advice would be greatly appreciated.
firstly what things can i do to help ensure she grows up to be confident with a good self esteem? and what can i do to avoid giving her a low self esteem
think my parenting confidence is at a low as i know people generally parent how they were parented and i dont what history to repeat
Also my daughter has been potty trained for a few months but sometimes she goes through periods of having accidents, mainly in creche. the creche felt that it was almost laziness as she tells them " mummy and daddy will clean me up' and she doesnt seem bothered by having accidents.
what is the best way to handle this? i had been told by a friend to threaten to put her back in nappies and give her big girl pants to someone else if she was going to be a baby but i worry that is a little damaging mentally for a 2 and a half yr year? what would be the best thing to say and do you feel ? thank you.
Thank you so much for your advice. I want so badly for her to grow up to be confident and self assured.
Really glad i found this website as its difficult to get exact answers even from parenting books.
I say to her a lot when she is trying to do jigsaws or something she finds difficult " you can do anything you put your mind to" is that ok?
I tell her a lot that i think she is so clever and mummy is proud of her and loves her very much. hopefully it all works