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Can I ask your first name?
Hi Jenny. Nice to meet you.
I read your post.
nice to meet you, thanks for reading post
Is this woman gay? Are you sure of that or you were just "testing the water" so to say?
no dont know if she was gay. never meant to check her out in tesco that day it just happened! she has had ex husbands in the past. but feel like she is flirting with me
That is very possible.
What did your text say?
problem is she was always talking about her ex husband in work, well sometimes anyway but i didnt see that as a prob.
What did the text say?
well i got myself into a right mess. i felt she was hinting to come round my house with various things that she said to me. so she came round acted like nothing was going on. but i felt like i needed to talk to her. so i said were you hinting to come round?
she denied it
so i text her saying do you think i like you that way?
And she told them you were harassing her?
she didnt respond so i text not accusing you of anything, just feel like we are playing mind games
no text so i said i like you that way but dont encourage me and mess with my feelings if u are not that way inclined
so she reported me for the texts
i just thought we could have an adult conversation
I see. Harassment
got myself into a mess then
no they havent said anything yet
I don't think you were harassing her
However, I can tell you from experience that relationships at work are a bad idea
oh thats ok then my heart stopped!
They rarely ever work out and then you are stuck working with that person 8-10 hours a day
i know i wish i had never gotten involved i just had alot of feelings for her
Yes, that is hard.
There are a few possibilities as to why she did this
1)She is the type of person that flirts a lot with no real intention
2)She isn't interested
3)she is interested but struggling with her own sexuality
i am really worried that i have misread the signals and that i am going to come off as some delusional woman obsessed with her
yes that was one of my theries
I don't think that will happen
I would just tell her
Say that you misread signals and you are sorry. It won't happen again.
well at the moment i have been required to work somewere else untill the matter is resolved
Okay. I would request a meeting with her and HR and explain.
Tell them that you are not obsessed and that you simply misread signals.
This is precisely why even flirting at work is a bad idea
yeah thanks i will do that. i guess that no one knows if misread her signals cause not in her head but is that what u think that she struggling with her sexuality?
Yes, I think so.
That is a lot of signals to misread!
thanks you have made me feel so much better!
you're welcome :)
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