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My grand daughter who we are bring up is not settleing at school. She

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My grand daughter who we are bring up is not settleing at school.
She will not mix and hides under the table and cries every morning.
Submitted: 2 years ago.
Category: Medical
Expert:  Dr. Phil, MD replied 2 years ago.

Dr. Phil, MD :

Hello. I'm Dr. Phil, licensed and practicing internist. Excellent service is my goal.

Dr. Phil, MD :

please enter chat mode

Dr. Phil, MD :

Hi I'm Dr. Phil

Dr. Phil, MD :

Can I ask your first name?

Customer:

HELLO dR. pHIL. i AM AT MY WITS END AND DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO

Dr. Phil, MD :

I'm sorry

Dr. Phil, MD :

about this

Dr. Phil, MD :

Has your granddaughter had a rough life so far?

Dr. Phil, MD :

why is she with you?

Customer:

SHE HAS BEEN WITH US FOR ALMOST FIVE YEARS AND HAS LITTLE OR NO CONTACT WITH HER MOTHER MAYBE ONCE A YEAR. HER MOTHER IS INTO DRUGS AND HER FATHER HUNG HIMSELF A WEEK BEFORE SHE WAS BORN. WE DONT TALK ABOUT ANY OF THIS IN FRONT OF HER AND SHE NEVER ASKS FOR EITHER OF THEM. sHE CALLS ME MUMMY AND MY HUSBAND PA.

Dr. Phil, MD :

ok

Dr. Phil, MD :

Has she had exposure to other kids before school?

Dr. Phil, MD :

was she in playgroups or preschool?

Customer:

YES SHE HAD FOUR YEARS IN DAY CARE AND KINDER AS THERE WERE NO OTHER CHILDREN OF HER AGE AROUND US, SHE SETTLED VERY WELL THERE AND LOVED IT. NONE OF THE CHILDREN SHE HAS BEEN WITH ATTEND HER SCHOOL

Dr. Phil, MD :

how long has she been at the new school?

Dr. Phil, MD :

When you drop her off do you drop her and leave right away?

Customer:

THIS IS THE THIRD WEEK AND SHE HAD FOUR SESSIONS OF HALF DAYS BEFORE SCHOOL BEGAN.

Dr. Phil, MD :

ok

Dr. Phil, MD :

how do you drop her off?

Customer:

We drive her to school and take her into her class along with all the other kids and parents

Dr. Phil, MD :

do you drop her off then leave?

Dr. Phil, MD :

right away?

Customer:

no we have tried that and she just hangs on to us and screams. the teacher has to pry her off and we quickly leave after reassuring her we will be there to pick her up in the afternoon

Dr. Phil, MD :

Okay

Dr. Phil, MD :

This is quite normal

Dr. Phil, MD :

Many children do this when adjusting to new situations

Dr. Phil, MD :

You simply have to tell her that you love her, its time for school, and leave quickly

Dr. Phil, MD :

It wouldn't be a bad idea to also get together with a child or two from class after school

Dr. Phil, MD :

So she can feel comfortable around a couple kids

Dr. Phil, MD :

Make a play date with another parent

Dr. Phil, MD :

that will help

Customer:

The teacher doesn't think so as she takes all day and wont mix with any of the other kids.. However I hadn't thought of a play date as she won't even speak to the others

Dr. Phil, MD :

4 weeks is a very short time

Dr. Phil, MD :

This child has had a hard life and while I am sure you are loving partents

Dr. Phil, MD :

parents

Dr. Phil, MD :

It is just hard

Dr. Phil, MD :

A play date with 2-3 other children will definitely help

Dr. Phil, MD :

It will give her comfort at school

Customer:

yes i know we do our best but she really is so upset. tonight there is a BBQ at school so i will see if we can organinase a play date

Dr. Phil, MD :

perfect!

Dr. Phil, MD :

the BBQ will help too

Customer:

Thank you very much I will see how this goes.

Dr. Phil, MD :

you're welcome :)

Dr. Phil, MD :

you seem to truly love her and trust me love goes a long way

Dr. Phil, MD :

She will get adjusted

Dr. Phil, MD :

I know it :)

Dr. Phil, MD :

Did I do excellent work for you today?

Customer:

I hope so I feel as if she is my child I was present at her birth and cut her chord but after thirty years it is hard to cope with all this . We are both in our mid 60's

Dr. Phil, MD :

Yes, that is a lot to put on you

Dr. Phil, MD :

I have small children and I know how hard it is

Dr. Phil, MD :

Hang in there!

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Experience: GP in the United States
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