Hello. I'm Dr. Phil, licensed and practicing internist. Excellent service is my goal.
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Hi I'm Dr. Phil
Can I ask your first name?
HELLO dR. pHIL. i AM AT MY WITS END AND DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO
Has your granddaughter had a rough life so far?
why is she with you?
SHE HAS BEEN WITH US FOR ALMOST FIVE YEARS AND HAS LITTLE OR NO CONTACT WITH HER MOTHER MAYBE ONCE A YEAR. HER MOTHER IS INTO DRUGS AND HER FATHER HUNG HIMSELF A WEEK BEFORE SHE WAS BORN. WE DONT TALK ABOUT ANY OF THIS IN FRONT OF HER AND SHE NEVER ASKS FOR EITHER OF THEM. sHE CALLS ME MUMMY AND MY HUSBAND PA.
Has she had exposure to other kids before school?
was she in playgroups or preschool?
YES SHE HAD FOUR YEARS IN DAY CARE AND KINDER AS THERE WERE NO OTHER CHILDREN OF HER AGE AROUND US, SHE SETTLED VERY WELL THERE AND LOVED IT. NONE OF THE CHILDREN SHE HAS BEEN WITH ATTEND HER SCHOOL
how long has she been at the new school?
When you drop her off do you drop her and leave right away?
THIS IS THE THIRD WEEK AND SHE HAD FOUR SESSIONS OF HALF DAYS BEFORE SCHOOL BEGAN.
how do you drop her off?
We drive her to school and take her into her class along with all the other kids and parents
do you drop her off then leave?
no we have tried that and she just hangs on to us and screams. the teacher has to pry her off and we quickly leave after reassuring her we will be there to pick her up in the afternoon
This is quite normal
Many children do this when adjusting to new situations
You simply have to tell her that you love her, its time for school, and leave quickly
It wouldn't be a bad idea to also get together with a child or two from class after school
So she can feel comfortable around a couple kids
Make a play date with another parent
that will help
The teacher doesn't think so as she takes all day and wont mix with any of the other kids.. However I hadn't thought of a play date as she won't even speak to the others
4 weeks is a very short time
This child has had a hard life and while I am sure you are loving partents
It is just hard
A play date with 2-3 other children will definitely help
It will give her comfort at school
yes i know we do our best but she really is so upset. tonight there is a BBQ at school so i will see if we can organinase a play date
the BBQ will help too
Thank you very much I will see how this goes.
you're welcome :)
you seem to truly love her and trust me love goes a long way
She will get adjusted
I know it :)
Did I do excellent work for you today?
I hope so I feel as if she is my child I was present at her birth and cut her chord but after thirty years it is hard to cope with all this . We are both in our mid 60's
Yes, that is a lot to put on you
I have small children and I know how hard it is
Hang in there!