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My girlfriends father passed away last week. My girlfriend

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My girlfriend's father passed away last week. My girlfriend lives in another country and I can only communicate with her by whatsapp atm since her pc isn't working. In the 2 days since her father passed away she managed to type me a few sentences. She never told me her father passed away and I found out after I asked her brother about it. Then she seemed to lose all ability to communicate with me. To this day she doesn't type anything to me. Not even a word. I just type messages to her and she reads them. Sometimes I wait for her to come online and I type to her as she is online with me. I have asked her to tell me if she wants to leave me or if I am stalking or hurting her in any way. She doesn't respond. Yet she still comes online and stays with me. She has no problem changing her whatsapp status, and she has (I think) gone back to school this week. I think she communicates with other people. She just seems to be unable to communicate with me. I am going for surgery tomorrow so I want to know if there is anything I can do urgently. I don't want to lose her. She is my life. We have never had any problems prior to this. Please help.
Submitted: 3 years ago.
Category: Medical
Expert:  Dr. David replied 3 years ago.

Dr. David :

This is Dr. David

Dr. David :

have you met this girl in person before?

Customer:

No I haven't. I know her for a period of months though.

Customer:

I am just very worried.

Customer:

I don't usually ask for help. I have studied a tad of psycology but I cannot understand exactly what is happening in this case.

Dr. David :

I understand.

Dr. David :

but I need you to read a story for me

Dr. David :

about a situation very similar to yours

Dr. David :

http://www.usatoday.com/story/sports/ncaaf/2013/01/16/manti-teo-girlfriend-hoax-deadspin/1840415/

Customer:

Okay. Anything.

Dr. David :

have you ever considered the possibility that this person isn't who she claims she is?

Customer:

I know her brother well too. He is in my clan. I knew him before I became her bf.

Dr. David :

have you met him in person?

Customer:

No I have not.

Dr. David :

people can lie and deceive very easily over the internet.

Dr. David :

I just want you to be aware of the possibility that these people are not who they claim they are .

Dr. David :

I just don't want you to be more hurt than you have been.

Dr. David :

did you read this story?

Dr. David :

http://www.usatoday.com/story/sports/ncaaf/2013/01/16/manti-teo-girlfriend-hoax-deadspin/1840415/


Customer:

I read it

Customer:

I still believe my gf is who she says she is.

Customer:

Of course I cannot prove it.

Customer:

I know deceptions do exist online though.

Dr. David :

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manti_Te%27o#Girlfriend_hoax

Dr. David :

that is good you know that deceptions do exist online.

Dr. David :

I just want you to be prepared in case this person isn't who they claim they are.

Customer:

If she is who she claims she is.

Customer:

What can I do about such a situation.

Dr. David :

you can't do anything.

Dr. David :

you have to allow her to grieve

Dr. David :

people grieve in different ways.

Customer:

So I just support her and wait for her to grieve. okay

Customer:

I understand

Customer:

I just needed advise because I don't want to hurt her.

Dr. David :

you are not doing anything to hurt her.

Customer:

I'm trying to do the right thing.

Dr. David :

but she or he might not want to talk to you anymore.

Dr. David :

there is no right thing to do here

Dr. David :

you haven't done anything wrong.

Customer:

I understand. I just support her and pray. Nothing else to do.

Customer:

Thanks

Customer:

I felt I was in the wrong somehow

Dr. David :

but you have to be careful and if you are very trusting person, it is very easy to get hurt on the internet when you build relationships with people you haven't met before.

Dr. David :

you are welcome

Dr. David :

you are not in the wrong.

Dr. David :

this might be a person pretending to be someone else.

Customer:

Thank you

Dr. David :

you are welcome

Dr. David :

let me know if you have other questions.

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Customer:

I realise this but I trust her. Thanks

Customer:

Okay

Dr. David :

let me know if you have other questions.

Customer:

Thanks have a nice day

Dr. David :

be careful of who you trust on the internet.

Dr. David :

you too

Dr. David :

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Customer:

Okay

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don't forget to leave positive feedback when done.

Customer:

Thanks

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Customer:

Thanks. I needed to speak to someone. You helped.

Dr. David :

you are welcome

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