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I dont know whether to quit my job or not. I have been doing

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I don't know whether to quit my job or not. I have been doing a management job for four months now. I am stressed out. I don't think I am capable for the job and not a good people manager. I don't enjoy the job and actually dread going into work. I didn't really enjoy the job as a pharmacist before becoming a manager of a pharmacy. I don't feel in control of my staff and the can't keep up with the intensity of the work.
I have asked my manager for more support in the short term but I think I will need to keep asking for support over the longer term. When I think about doing this job in another six months time I feel depressed!
I want to be in a job I enjoy but I haven't a clue what that would be.
The stress is starting to affect my home life as I am miserable around my fiance and end up talking about work to her.
Please help!
Submitted: 3 years ago.
Category: Medical
Expert:  Dr. Phil, MD replied 3 years ago.

Dr. Phil, MD :

Hello. I'm Dr. Phil, licensed and practicing internist. Excellent service is my goal.

Dr. Phil, MD :

please enter chat

Customer:

Hello

Dr. Phil, MD :

Hi I'm Dr. Phil

Dr. Phil, MD :

Can i ask your first name?

Customer:

yes its Jo

Dr. Phil, MD :

Hi Jo

Dr. Phil, MD :

Nice to meet you

Dr. Phil, MD :

I'm sorry you don't like your new job

Customer:

And yo

Dr. Phil, MD :

Is there any way you can go back to being a pharmacist?

Customer:

yes well actually I could ask if I could go back to being a locum pharmacist for the company

Dr. Phil, MD :

why don't you do that?

Customer:

I don't like the idea of being a quitter though!

Dr. Phil, MD :

Jo, can I tell you a story?

Customer:

I am afraid that I will regret that decision

Customer:

yes of course

Dr. Phil, MD :

I work in a city that is basically supported by one huge corporation

Dr. Phil, MD :

about 50% of the city works for this company

Customer:

Ok

Dr. Phil, MD :

One day one of the executives came into my office for depression

Dr. Phil, MD :

He makes millions of dollars per year, is successful and has a huge house

Customer:

Ok

Dr. Phil, MD :

yet, he was depressed because he didn't spend time with his kids growing up

Dr. Phil, MD :

the very next patient was a janitor

Dr. Phil, MD :

when he came in, he said "wow, you take care of Mr. So and so"?

Dr. Phil, MD :

He is a big shot at the company.

Dr. Phil, MD :

I clean his bathrooms

Dr. Phil, MD :

When I asked the janitor how he was doing, he said "great!"

Dr. Phil, MD :

He loved his job cleaning bathrooms, was happy and had a great family

Customer:

Yeah I would agree totally that money doesnt equal happiness

Dr. Phil, MD :

he exercised, ate right and was happy

Dr. Phil, MD :

so this guy cleaned the bathrooms of the guy who was leading the company and was happy as a clam

Dr. Phil, MD :

life isn't about your position Jo.

Customer:

but being good at something? Does that make a person happy?

Dr. Phil, MD :

you have to do what makes you happy

Dr. Phil, MD :

I don't know Jo. Everyone is different

Dr. Phil, MD :

that makes some people happy

Dr. Phil, MD :

but not others

Customer:

yeah thats true. i want to be good at what i do and be happy! maybe thats asking too much?

Dr. Phil, MD :

no, I don't think so Jo

Dr. Phil, MD :

I think that is the goal of life!

Dr. Phil, MD :

Be happy and good at what you do

Dr. Phil, MD :

take pride in your work

Dr. Phil, MD :

However, I would caution you that maybe it is too early

Dr. Phil, MD :

maybe you should give your job more time just to see

Dr. Phil, MD :

If you have the locums as a backup, you can always fall back on that

Customer:

Yeah. Its just got to a stage where I feel very stressed Monday to Friday

Dr. Phil, MD :

i see

Dr. Phil, MD :

the good part is you always have a backup

Dr. Phil, MD :

very few people have that luxury Jo

Dr. Phil, MD :

to be able to try out a new job and have a backup

Customer:

Yeah I agree, it's not as if I have no job if I leave.

Dr. Phil, MD :

correct

Dr. Phil, MD :

you have a GREAT job to fall back on

Customer:

What about the feeling that I am useless at what I am doing? How do I get past that?

Dr. Phil, MD :

I think you need to focus on small victories

Dr. Phil, MD :

Like today I did "this well"

Customer:

Ok so make the small victories seem bigger?

Dr. Phil, MD :

well they will naturally add up over time

Dr. Phil, MD :

you are really early into this job Jo

Dr. Phil, MD :

4 months is a short time

Dr. Phil, MD :

It is going to be hard.

Dr. Phil, MD :

you have to focus on small things you are doing better

Customer:

Ok yeah it is early I agree. I think I have lost drive I had at the start

Dr. Phil, MD :

you have to try and stay focused.

Dr. Phil, MD :

keep in mind that you doing a good job means that patients are getting the meds they need

Dr. Phil, MD :

and possibly saving lives.

Dr. Phil, MD :

It is a noble job Jo

Dr. Phil, MD :

Like mine

Dr. Phil, MD :

It sounds kind of corny but you are doing good for society

Dr. Phil, MD :

and your community

Customer:

Yeah yours is definitely! Sometimes I see my job as just dishing out meds like sweets. It's hard to see the value in it.

Dr. Phil, MD :

I disagree with that completely

Dr. Phil, MD :

pharmacists have caught many of my misses and actually saved my a$$ a few times

Dr. Phil, MD :

and the patient's a$$

Dr. Phil, MD :

that is why pharmacists make good money. Because we value their job and responsibility as a society

Customer:

Haha yeah. And vice versa! When the pressure is on at work it seems like you have to see the patient as quick as possible and move on?

Dr. Phil, MD :

correct

Dr. Phil, MD :

lots of pressure and medicines get missed and errors are made

Dr. Phil, MD :

you guys are the last line of defense

Customer:

No I mean like I feel the pressure and get rushed and potentially miss things too.

Dr. Phil, MD :

Oh yes. I can definitely related.

Dr. Phil, MD :

you can just do your best Jo

Customer:

Yeah. And what about people management, have you any tips for that because it feels very difficult to be telling others what to do all the time?

Dr. Phil, MD :

confidence

Dr. Phil, MD :

it's all about confidence even if it is fake

Dr. Phil, MD :

you have to act like you are the boss and I wouldn't get close with your staff or friends

Customer:

haha yeah.

Dr. Phil, MD :

if you become friends, they won't take you serious

Dr. Phil, MD :

seriously

Dr. Phil, MD :

and you have to be straight with them

Dr. Phil, MD :

if they mess up or aren't doing something right, tell them face to face.

Customer:

Ok I have tried not to be their friend but it gets awkward at times too.

Dr. Phil, MD :

yes, getting used to that position is weird

Dr. Phil, MD :

but you grow into it

Dr. Phil, MD :

and it actually feels good after you are comfortable with it

Customer:

(This probably sounds as if it's not big problems but they add up and stress me out during the day!)

Customer:

yeah I would say you do get more comfortable with it.

Dr. Phil, MD :

yes, you do for sure

Dr. Phil, MD :

I think you should try to stick it out a bit longer Jo

Customer:

Yeah? I think the responsibility for the staff and customers is a bit heavy too don't you think?

Customer:

I mean patients

Dr. Phil, MD :

absolutely!

Dr. Phil, MD :

But we are stuck with this situation

Dr. Phil, MD :

so we have to tough it out :)

Customer:

Yeah. so keep looking for the small victories and act confident around the staff. Great advice

Dr. Phil, MD :

absolutely Jo

Dr. Phil, MD :

That is how I started to run my office and now I am the big boss around there

Dr. Phil, MD :

I was super scared at first

Dr. Phil, MD :

hated the job

Dr. Phil, MD :

but grew into it over time

Customer:

Haha, sounds good. Do you enjoy it now? I would stick at it if I thought the enjoyment would come

Dr. Phil, MD :

yes, I do

Dr. Phil, MD :

I make decisions, see patients and run the office

Dr. Phil, MD :

It is actually quite fun to run a business once you get comfortable with it

Dr. Phil, MD :

It took me a couple years though to start liking it

Dr. Phil, MD :

I think you will get there too

Customer:

Yeah Ok. How do you feel in control of your staff? (without being to controlling)

Dr. Phil, MD :

yes but they are always going to dislike you

Dr. Phil, MD :

let me take that back

Dr. Phil, MD :

many of them will dislike you no matter what

Dr. Phil, MD :

you just have to accept that

Customer:

I find that quite hard you know

Dr. Phil, MD :

yes, I know

Dr. Phil, MD :

it is hard but there has to be a line

Dr. Phil, MD :

you have to separate yourself from them

Customer:

Im not used to that

Dr. Phil, MD :

you can do what is right and what is fair but you can't be friends

Dr. Phil, MD :

I made that mistake many times

Dr. Phil, MD :

before I learned

Customer:

Yeah It's hard in a small workplace to have the boundary.

Dr. Phil, MD :

I know.

Dr. Phil, MD :

you have to try Jo

Dr. Phil, MD :

they don't have to like you but they have to respect you

Customer:

Yes its worth a try

Dr. Phil, MD :

yes

Dr. Phil, MD :

did I help you today Jo?

Customer:

Yeah loads thank you very much

Dr. Phil, MD :

you're welcome Jo :)

Dr. Phil, MD :

I'm happy to help

Dr. Phil, MD :

Any more questions for me my friend?

Customer:

No but I think it;s worth more time. Thank you

Dr. Phil, MD :

you're welcome Jo

Dr. Phil, MD :

would you rate me positive before exiting?

Dr. Phil, MD :

I greatly appreciate it

Customer:

Yes I hope your business does good

Dr. Phil, MD :

I hope the same for you Jo

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