I'm not entirely sure, but I don't think so.
I have never been one of the most sparkling personalities and I do prefer my own space, but I am quite content with that.
That's similar to my work scenario;
I used to go out with an Ukranian girl, the relation became quite "flat" and I started an online relation with a Thai girl that I visited a couple of times.
I am now still in contact with both but in reality with neither of them.. because they live in their own countries.
Are you still there?
Do you always walk out of your consultations just like that?
Unless you have an emergency..which you could have mentioned in a 2 line message.. this is going to get you an awful feedback.
I understand Phil is your colleague and you want to give him the benefit of the doubt; but please I am gullible only to an extent!
Are you saying that Phil has genuinely lost connection for longer then 1 hour while he is working? In a country like the US!? Never happened in the UK.
Anyway, let's move on:
Thanks for your assessment.
You are suggesting counselling as the way forward in either case;
but how does one establish if he is genuinely depressed or not prior to decide to go counselling?
As I mentioned I have not been working for sometimes and not in a financial situation to obtain counselling of a decent standard.