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In fact condoms do reduce the spread of HPV and herpes.
If one practices safe sex and avoids herpes outbreaks, and the partner is on acyclovir, this is a lower risk per year of getting herpes than if condoms are not used, even with the other measures.
HPV will have the spread prevented as long as the condom covers the lesion, and if there is no viral spread to the hands, etc.
Both herpes blisters and warts on other parts of the body, not covered by a condom, can be spread.
All STDs can be spread orally, even though the risk is lower.
IN your situation, the botXXXXX XXXXXne is that you need the gold standard of HIV testing [3 months and 6 months elisa] as any active adult should have.
You should also be specifically tested for gonorrhea and chlamydia. HPV or HSV are tested off the lesions if they form, or in the case of HSV, you can wait 6 weeks or so and have a serum test.
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