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Have you tried anything for this as yet?
I mean any medications?
Or been to any professional.
no and no
i thought i could beat it my self but if anything its getting worse
What is your typical time?
or average time to ejaculation.
recently if im sober literally under a minute.
if iv had a drink i can go forever
when i had a girlfriend it went up and down sometimes a few minutes sometimes not. now i don't really feel comftable having sober sex
You are having what is called as premature ejaculation.
Have you tried or heard about squeeze tehnique or tried masturbating an hour or two before having sex?
Have they helped any?
no not really. i think i have worked my self up to much to be honest. when i get sexually active with a girl now i start to worry so much.
Have you tried delay sprays and/or delay creams?
no i dont really want to use a cream i want to just sort it out for good
i used to cum quick when i was drunk to but managed to sort that out, i know if i have a few goes sober and it goes well i will stop worrying. i dont really want to use creams incase it effects the girl to
There are a few options available other than the ones that I mentioned above:1. Medications like fluoxetine or paroxetine
2. CBT or cognitive behavioral therapy.
Have you heard of any of those?
and what are they? sprays and creams?
Fluoxetine or paroxetine are medications that belong to the SSRI group.
They are basically antidepressants.
and they are very commonly used for premature ejaculation.
They increase time.
yes i have heard of these
CBT also known as counseling or talk therapy, involves talking with a mental health provider about your relationships and experiences. These talk sessions can help you reduce performance anxiety or find effective ways of coping with stress and solving problems. Counseling is most likely to help when it's used in combination with drug therapy
can i get them over the counter?
Its not over-the-counter. You would have to get a prescription.
You would have to talk to your GP about it.
Are you with me?
are there any side effects?
also is this in the uk?
Its a very safe drug used by millions of people all over the world.
Usually there are minimal to no side effects
as i said about the ADD do you think that could be related to the problem
Its available all over the world including UK.
Yes there may be a relation but not a strong relation.
premature ejaculation is a very common problem in males.
So I would not like to relate it to ADD only.
how quick does the medication take to be effective?
Medication starts to take effect in about a week's time.
i feel if i did take it after a few week i would be able to calm my nerves and be ok without it. but i would be worried about becoming dependant on it?
This medication is not something that one would become addicted to.
Its not that kind of drug.
If it starts working and you used it for a few weeks to months and then you can stop using it whenever you like.
but is it a drug you need to take everyday
Yes thats true.
have you heard it work for other people
I have used it for a large number of people with good results.
Which is why I am suggesting it to you.
i assume i would just tell a gp what i told you and they would prescribe it?
Yes, hopefully, various from one GP to another but if you mention the problem and the number of things that you have already tried he/she should prescribe it as far as I am concerned.
ok is there any other things u might advise?
Nothing much else other than that you should try and relax your mind as much as you possibly can
The more relaxed you are the better it is for sex.
i think any other questions i may as well ask when i see my gp?
hopefully i can sort it out
I hope so too and wish you all the best.
is there any science about why when i was drunk i used to not last long but have no conquered that
i think i just need to do the same thing when sober ?
When you are drunk you become relaxed
The anxieties are gone
Worries are gone or are much less.
The more anxious you are, the more you worry, the less calm your mind is and the premature ejaculation would be worse.
So the main thing is the ability to relax yourself and your mind.
yes it makes sence
no thats fine thankyou for your time
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