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What causes me to mimic my friend silently when she speaks

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What causes me to mimic my friend silently when she speaks to me?
Submitted: 3 years ago.
Category: Medical
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 3 years ago.
Hi--can you tell me more about what it is you do and is it only with your friend?
Customer: replied 3 years ago.

I become very unself-conscious,and watch her face,shaping with my mouth the words she is saying as she speaks.With a `jump` ,I become self -aware.I have `caught` myself doing this three times now on three separate occasions.

Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 3 years ago.
OK Chris. When did this start and is it usually in a relaxed setting?
Customer: replied 3 years ago.

I don't know how long I have been doing it.I first became aware in the last 3 months.


 


I am playing bridge with girlfriends and notice I am deeply relaxed,especially in the second before I catch myself.My friend had a really worried frown as she looked at me.There is so much conversation going on that it doesn't seempossible to ask her how I seem to be,besides she isn't the worlds most discreet person!


 


 

Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 3 years ago.
OK Chris--and just to check here--you have no problem with understanding what someone else is saying or with speaking yourself?
Customer: replied 3 years ago.

No,I am not deaf,speak as well as ever,play bridge,and don't lose focus.Dont be afraid to tell me its dementia,if that's what you suspect!


 


I have asked Richard,my partner,if he has seen me doing this mouthing twice,and he says no ,he has not.

Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 3 years ago.
No problem Chris but let's explore a little more. Are you having any memory problems or perhaps some emotional instability like highs and lows?
Customer: replied 3 years ago.

My memory is like my friends,we all lose things , have to use a diary.I don't tail off in the middle of a sentence.I realised recently that I had felt that I might behave inappropriately pick at my nose in public,but it was a feeling that passed.I have good mental health now ,after a difficult life.I say that ,meaning that I know what it is to be anxious and troubled.Dad drank.But now I have been happy for 20 years.

Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 3 years ago.
OK Chris. I really think then, that there's nothing to worry about here. The term is empathy and it's just a very strong connection with your friend and nothing more than that. That said, let your doctor know about this just so all the bases are covered.
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