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Hi there. Ive been in a relationship with a cancer

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Hi there. Ive been in a relationship with a testicular cancer survivor for only 5months now. We had great sex for the first month. Sometimes he would get an erection 4x in one night.
But then it all stopped. We havent had regular sex for 4months now. He had one 'morning glory' about 6weeks ago. Before i came into his life he had no sexual activity for years. My question is why would it go suddenly from all to nothing like this???
Submitted: 3 years ago.
Category: Medical
Expert:  Dr. Phil, MD replied 3 years ago.

Dr. Phil, MD :

Hello. I'm Dr. Phil, licensed and practicing internist. Excellent service is my goal.

Dr. Phil, MD :

please enter chat

Dr. Phil, MD :

Hi I'm Dr. Phil

Dr. Phil, MD :

Can I ask your first name?

Customer:

Hi there. My name is***** was trying to figure out how this works. Do u have somd insight for me plz?

Dr. Phil, MD :

Yes, I'm happy to help

Dr. Phil, MD :

Does he have one good testicle still?

Customer:

Yes

Dr. Phil, MD :

okay does he take any other meds?

Customer:

As i said originally he got erections very easily..... after being sexually inactive for ages... i came into his life and the sex was fantastic..

Dr. Phil, MD :

yes, does he take any other medicines for any reasons?

Customer:

No none that i know of except he has leg pains due to cancer lump ops and that is a big issue.... deals with 5/10 pain every day.... goes up to an 8 at times... but he had those probs when we first met

Dr. Phil, MD :

Is he taking pain pills?

Customer:

No.... just get some shots from doc when needed

Dr. Phil, MD :

okay

Dr. Phil, MD :

something organic must be going on here

Dr. Phil, MD :

that is internally

Customer:

Oh and white cell booster shots as well

Dr. Phil, MD :

i would recommend he gets full workup

Dr. Phil, MD :

thyroid, vitamin D, blood counts, liver/kidney/electolytes

Customer:

His own doc said his body is still recovering from evasive cancer treatments... that its concentrating on fixing the most important areas first.... but i get that part.... just not how it can change from being so active so not even being able to get aroused.... at all???

Dr. Phil, MD :

That does happen

Dr. Phil, MD :

absolutely

Dr. Phil, MD :

hormones can fluctuate wildly at times

Customer:

His recovery is 2months ahead his doc said so remission is going very well and to be patient as normal function will return... but its very frustrating for us both

Dr. Phil, MD :

I'm very sorry

Dr. Phil, MD :

He should ask to try viagra or cialis

Dr. Phil, MD :

it is very safe to use and won't interfere with cancer treatments or anything like that

Customer:

We keep waiting for it to happen as naturally as it did before as we were told it would & to just be patient?

Dr. Phil, MD :

That is an option

Dr. Phil, MD :

however it is reasonable to try some help too

Dr. Phil, MD :

it won't hurt anything

Customer:

Testosterone shots??? How effective are they? Or should be???

Dr. Phil, MD :

they are really not that effective at all

Customer:

What can i do?? Would stimulation work?? Any other ideas??

Dr. Phil, MD :

Yes, you could try that.

Dr. Phil, MD :

Why are you not receptive to the idea of viagra or cialis?

Customer:

What purpose are those shots for then if not to stimulate feeling and arousal then ;(

Dr. Phil, MD :

many docs think they work for ED

Dr. Phil, MD :

they don't

Customer:

viagra never came up.... pardon the pun...

Dr. Phil, MD :

LOL!!!!!

Dr. Phil, MD :

I love that Coral

Dr. Phil, MD :

Thank you...that made me laugh

Dr. Phil, MD :

Ask the doctor about it

Dr. Phil, MD :

it will work

Customer:

Ok... its worth a shot.... pun intended.... again

Dr. Phil, MD :

Bam!

Dr. Phil, MD :

Another great one Coral!!!!

Dr. Phil, MD :

Wow you are one funny lady!

Customer:

Well if i dont retain my sense of humour i will shoot myself... no seriously this has been very confusing time for me as ive felt like ive lost my mojo and have no effect on him.... we are planning to get married.... we are a perfect fit... in all things... but ive had to learn to cope with his cancerous past having not been a part of it... im a very patient understanding person but dont like not undetstanding anything... so its doing my head in trying to fathom why things changed?

Dr. Phil, MD :

I agree that his sex drive will come back

Dr. Phil, MD :

give it time and be patient

Dr. Phil, MD :

in the meantime give viagra a shot...stole your pun :)

Customer:

He says it isnt me.... its his own inadequate body letting him down but its hard...grrr wrong word.... to accept it all

Dr. Phil, MD :

:)

Dr. Phil, MD :

You have to accept as a whole

Dr. Phil, MD :

not in pieces

Dr. Phil, MD :

just be patient Coral

Customer:

Im trying.... really i am..

Dr. Phil, MD :

I know you are but now you have an idea to help

Customer:

I just have experienced him as a 'whole' complete functioning man... so I KNOW the potential.

Customer:

And what im missing ;( ;( ;(

Dr. Phil, MD :

I'm very sorry this is happening Coral

Customer:

Wish i knew WHY exactly it IS happening tho??

Dr. Phil, MD :

Like I said I agree it could be from the treatments but could be for a lot of other reasons....thyroid, vitamin D, etc

Customer:

Stress??? Physcological??

Dr. Phil, MD :

yes that could be playing a role.. definite

Dr. Phil, MD :

definitely

Customer:

Ive got him on herbalife re a healthier nutritional lifestyle so he gets loads of vitamins minerals etc that body needs

Dr. Phil, MD :

That's good. nutrition is important and recovery from cancer is dependent on good nutrition

Dr. Phil, MD :

you are doing everything you can

Customer:

Hes been stressed a lot.... money issues....

Dr. Phil, MD :

oh

Customer:

Yeah his previous wife died suddenly last november.... fighting with her estate etc.... i came into his life in january... we had been online friends for years so 'was there" for him during his cancer... but only ad a friend... not as a partner.... his ex wasnt very supportive... in fact had an affair... so when we met it was magical.... and as i said he had no issues re arousal or erections when we first got together... but then it petered out... almost like i was a new lease on life for him... which i was.... but now outside influences are affecting him again????

Dr. Phil, MD :

I'm sorry that happened.

Dr. Phil, MD :

unfortunately I can't comment on his internal feelings

Dr. Phil, MD :

It seems that there is definitely something organic going on to me. I don't think it is you

Dr. Phil, MD :

I would give it some time, pursue lab tests and try viagra.

Dr. Phil, MD :

That is the best info I have to offer.

Customer:

Ok.... siiiigh.... i will try be patient

Dr. Phil, MD :

ok Coral

Dr. Phil, MD :

thanks for your time and you seem to be a very caring, loving and funny person

Dr. Phil, MD :

hand in there :)

Dr. Phil, MD :

would you be so kind as to rate me positive before exiting chat?

Customer:

What about porn sites? Ive noticed hes gone to a few.... should i feel offended by that?

Dr. Phil, MD :

nope

Dr. Phil, MD :

all guys do

Customer:

But why arent i enough.... age old question??? Grrr

Dr. Phil, MD :

it has nothing to do with you coral

Dr. Phil, MD :

all guys look at porn

Customer:

Im doing all i can to help him?

Dr. Phil, MD :

yes

Customer:

Ok. Slinks away in her goddess body feeling inadequate lol

Dr. Phil, MD :

LOL

Dr. Phil, MD :

I have to stop the chat here Coral. We have been discussing this for about an hour and I think we have covered everything we can here. If you would be so kind to rate positive, I would greatly appreciate it. It is very late here and the good doctor has to work tomorrow :)

Customer:

Thanx doc....for chat... it helped a little... will see if i can get him to try viagra... xx

Dr. Phil, MD :

you're welcome

Dr. Phil, MD :

I did my best and so are you

Dr. Phil, MD :

good luck :)

Customer:

Ta ra... go sleep now... i need my beauty z's as well.... take care

Dr. Phil, MD :

you too. good night :)

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Expert:  Dr. Phil, MD replied 3 years ago.
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