Sorry! i googled ask a therapist and didn't realise this is a medial thing.
hello, my question: i am an adult adoptee. the adoptive family was invalidating/abusive - and i have massive attachment issues. i just moved to new city and connected with my half sisters. was the most amazing feeling of connection i've ever felt. they seemed pretty delighted too - indicated that they hoped i'd stay and that it was great to get to know each other. i invited them to my house for dinner but they couldn\t make the week i suggested. i understand this rationally but emotionally i want to shut down and never see them again. i didn't reveal my feelings to them - but acted like it's fine. i have the sense this is now going to be another fake meaningless acquaintance ... i had been longing to see them again since the last time. can you explain why i feel like this, and how to handle it. i really really don't want them to come to my house now or act open and true to them again..... thanks!
hi, sorry this is really confusing. you are medical doctor or a therapist?
what does mean regressed mean?
why did i think that? i thought was asking a therapist to explain my confusing response to this...
a. i haven't been diagnosed w any condition
b. yes they haven't rejected me but i already know that its more important to me than to them so i want to leave the situation. or i feel strongly as if i do/
hi, yes i have had therapy but wasn't given a diagnosis.
yes it was CBT
it was online and for over a year
yes thanks, ***** ***** with you, i understand that it is from the past and isn't healthy or appropriate but i am feeling and not sure how to handle it... so if you could advice me.. that would be great. it also starts feeling like i am acting with them so that they don't realise i am a half psycho with all these irrational issues?
okay thank you i will look into doing that. if you could follow up with one last piece of specific advice -- should i go ahead with the dinner next week or not? and just not mention the issues? i'm pretty sure i can act like it's fine (as i did when they said they couldn't make it)