what do you mean by close relationships?
OK I can appreciate that. It's reassuring, now we get to the real issue. Whether being insensitive, boring and socially inept is a mental disorder or just being insensitive, boring and socially inept?
How do you tell the difference? When does failure to interpret no-verbal cues or to recognise a joke is being made become something other than just socially awkward?
So it's not a disorder unless I let it be?
Nice bit of weasel wording there. I interpret your answer as encouragement with some non-judgemental permission to fail worked in at the back. Is that a fair assessment?
So you think its probably a disorder but good luck to me?
Your depression suggestion is a bit af a surprise to me. It's not where I was going. I was questioning my social interactions because I got a real shock today and I never saw it coming concerning my interactions with another member of staff who is off with stress. She's been off for 6 weeks and I disovered today she says it's my fault she's stressed. I don't recognise her version and I thought she was my friend, so maybe I am a bit depressed tonight, but yes I have a responsible professional job and no I don't drink, or do drugs. It'll look better in the morning.
You're probably right. She's very good with people and social interactions, and poor with the written word. I thought we made a good team, complementary strengths. I don't think it's my fault she's stressed, but I probably haven't helped. I'd have expected her to tell me she had a problem but if she tried for subtlety, well with boring insensitive people you might need a sledgehammer to get through.