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Really sorry to hear about your dad
There certainly had been a delay in operating the hernia
He unfortunately died from bowel obstruction causing all the problems i.e. multiorgan failure in the end.
If the doctors failed to identify the obstructed hernia and delayed the surgery then they are certainly at fault.
could not operate on massive hernia.too old for heart to take it.do I blame myself for delaying going to hospital but dad did not know bowel had slipped or is it dad was tired of pain and wanted to go.
It is a difficult situation.
In the vast majority of cases such hernias will not cause any problems.
But he was unfortunate that it happened to him.
can I give myself any kind of peace because this is destroying me.
Well, if it were my father (who actually died of colon cancer at a very young age of 47) I would be sad obviously but I would know that operating a huge hernia at his age with his other illnesses that he had would have been a double edged sword anyways and it could have backfired.
So I would like that you should calm down and it was probably something that you may not have been able to change.
Dr Shahzad,sorry within the conversation forgot to say my father was 86.I'm sorry.
I understand, no problem.
could you say it was his time to go
I would say that.
If it were my father at the age of 86 I would say that surely.
if he was opera
if he was successful in returning bowel to normal position would he suffered with more pain,wearing caffiter and struggling to go to toilet.Also you say we were unlucky that bowel slipped as this is unusual.
He certainly was unlucky.
With such a huge hernia the possibility of a bowel getting stuck in the hernia and getting obstructed is rare.
Last question.can I have peace
THANKS DOCTOR.You have helped.is there else I could have done even delaying going to hospital when he was sick
I think that you did everything that you could.
There was nothing else that you could have done.
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