I feel very angery and upset by the way my mum has been treated, how do I get rid of these unhealthy feeling?
No because if they can't get a basic hip diagnoses or diabetes diagnoses what hope is their for me, anyway if they had got it right in the first place I would not be suffering now, i guess you could say i don't trust these people anymore.
I have no close family and I don't really talk about this to friends because, they too have had poor NHS care for their friends and family! Most of them work in the NHS or have their own issues which I would not be able to support if I starting going on able my problems. I am looking for a practical sulution to remove the illwill I feel to people who don't care
OK--stick with me here.
Have you had any problems in the past with resentments?
No, I don't have a resentfull nature or even a revengefull one that is the problem I actually care to much and it really hurts me to see needless suffering and lack of empathy, what does it take to say sorry?
No! I just beleave do bo harm.
OK Tina. First off, it would help greatly for you to talk to an understanding friend about all your feelings. Not necessarily to have them discuss the matter with you--although that can be helpful too--but just as a way of taking off the lid and letting the steam out. And it may take several talks to work.
Secondly, here's a link that should be very helpful and it invovles some careful homework
The last suggestiong--although I don't think it's likely you'll really consider it--is to talk to a counselor adept in cognitive behavoral therapy like a PhD clinical psychologist.
If you need to talk more about this, I'll be more than happy to continue so just let me know
Oh my goodness, I know what the problem is, my ex nhs boss prevented access of care to patients and everytime a health professional does it not necessarily deliberately but due to lack of experience or facilities I relive the trurma of what my ex nhs boss did I am suffering from PTSD? Does that sound right to you?
No I will not dismiss what you are saying, CBT is OK but I think the letting go and the website you emailed me will be a lot cheaper, no G.P. would have a budget to send me for CBT treatment without a long assessment, I think the nhs had done enough damage to my mental health. Thanks for the chat you have been brilliant!
lets keep the budget for those poor souls that really need it.
all the best
My pleasure Tina and keep in touch.
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One last thought--old saying--the problem with a resentment is the person one resents doesn't loose any sleep over it