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I don't really know what I am doing here. I guess I'm

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Hello.
I don't really know what I am doing here. I guess I'm just really tired of what is happening around me.
I am in nearly 3 years relationship with a man which I thought I gonna built my future with. Everything was fine in the begging but now I can't take it anymore and for someone reason I can't leave him. I am like...not able or not ready. From around a year all what I can hear is that I always complaints about something. That always I am not good enough. He refused to have sex with me (rather do it himself) cause I am apparently to stressful...and to fat. I am 167cm tall 75kg and always I hear that I am fat, not attractive etc. I ask him to leave me- he claims he love me but every 2/3 weeks we have an argument. He blames me for everything. Even if I am full time working, taking care about him, home etc. I am always not good enough. I am really tired. I suffered depression in the past and now I have a feeling like I am loosing my life again. He doesn't care about what I need, even when I am ill he demands the stuff to be done. I don't know how I end up in the situation like that but I feel like I don't have any more energy to even try to run away from that. Please...Help me...I don't know what is happening to me.
Submitted: 1 year ago.
Category: Medical
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
I start thinking if it's possible that I am a mental abuse victim. But even if yes...I don't know what to do..mere to look for help
Expert:  Dr. Phil, MD replied 1 year ago.
any other medical issues?
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
No. Just depression which came back like 2 times in 4 years now
Expert:  Dr. Phil, MD replied 1 year ago.
have you sought help for depression?
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
They just gave me antidepressants each time. But I guess this time is different. I just can't listen him...shouting, smashing stuff...All the time everything is my fault. I feel really unstable at the moment. Last night I thought I gonna harm him or myself just to make it stop
Expert:  Dr. Phil, MD replied 1 year ago.
have you called the police?
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
No. He never hit me. I think he would never do. But he is mentally destroying me. I don't understand why I can't get out of this. I actually start taking some blame on myself for this what he is doing.
Expert:  Dr. Phil, MD replied 1 year ago.
why don't you just leave?he is destroying you
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
I don't know... I can't...first i was feeling sorry about him cause he has some health problems. Now we have a house together, our finances are together. And for some reason each time I belive him he will change. But it's getting worst and worst.
Expert:  Dr. Phil, MD replied 1 year ago.
you have to leave. no matter how difficult you have to
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
I was thinking should I go to look for some medical help. Like psychologist or whoever. He made me feel so low about myself like I not deserve no one else. No one better. Like I am no one. And I should be glad that still he want me around...
Expert:  Dr. Phil, MD replied 1 year ago.
Yes, you shouldand you are not worthless
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
I am scared to go to gp. To talk face to face. For the last 2 years I lost all my friends. He separate me from them. Somehow. We have just his friends which thinks he is awesome cause in front of them he is the most loving fiance. But after they r gone I am no one. Just cleaner, cooker etc. Even if I ask 1 every 6 months for him to make love to me I al listening that I am too fat, not attractive etc.
Expert:  Dr. Phil, MD replied 1 year ago.
You have to start with the GPyou can do it.you have the courage. I know it
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
I just don't understand what's happen to me. I was really cheerful, optimistic person. In 2 years I feel like a ghost. Disgusted, ashamed and humiliated in my own home from the men which proposed to me. I feel like I can't control my life anymore. Like I can't make a decision
Expert:  Dr. Phil, MD replied 1 year ago.
he is controlling you and breaking youlots of manipulative partners do this
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
What should I do than? How should I start? Where would you recommend me to look for help first?
I tried to speak to him but like I said he says I make him do that to me or say stuff. And at the moment I am not even stron enough to go. I am from Poland, living in England...sometimes is so difficult here.
Expert:  Dr. Phil, MD replied 1 year ago.
i would start with the GP and ask to see a psychologist
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Do you think that will help me? Do I need to go with him too? He would probably never agree for something like that
Expert:  Dr. Phil, MD replied 1 year ago.
Yes, I truly do
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Last question. Do u think. As a doctor that he is mentally abusing me? Or its just me overreacting ?
Expert:  Dr. Phil, MD replied 1 year ago.
Oh this is abuse. Emotional abuse
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Thank you Dr. Phil. I will seek a GP advice this week. Thank you that I could speak to you today.
Expert:  Dr. Phil, MD replied 1 year ago.
welcome :)please don't forget a positive rating for me. I appreciate itgood luck Marzena. I wish you great happiness in your life :)
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Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Thank you. Good bye :)

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