Hi there!Well, where do I start!? My mother certainly has issues and I'd like to understand what's going on with this. But, her family (brother, sister, mother) also seem to have problems. I'm not sure where I stand right now. My aunt and her husband have always been good to me (my mom's sister). But my mother has fallen out with the entire family.
So, I'm going to start by listing these issues with my mom first, then we can talk about the wider family. Hoping you can give be great advice on how to deal with it all and the right approach. Who might be right and who wrong, too.
Her childhood - she claims she didn't get on with her mom as well as with her farther. The older sister was bossy according to my mom and she was also younger than the brother. She had a private education I believe and then a job for a short while, hasn't worked ever since.
She developed alcohol addiction at early age but claims to haven’t given this up whilst pregnant with me and had some after for a while. As a wife I she is very bossy and domineering. She gets my dad to side with her whatever, and I'd say if she doesn't get as she wants then she turns into a bully.
As a mother, I felt a lack of empathy, I felt she was unreasonable quite often and was overly strict. If I'd made a mess as a kid it would be a strongly punished. Threats were often made such as "You'll be sent to boarding school, etc". Locked in room by parents with string attached to not exit. Witnessed mother rage on occasions when young. Such as against my father whilst I was in the car attempting to swerve it to on-coming traffic making me upset. Smashing a gaming console my father brought me because she didn't like the size and my dad wouldn't instantly take it back. Raged at neighbours because the dogs kept coming on the frontage.
Can't give or take easily at all. Neighbor recently parked car by driveway (it was hidden by hedge). Small thing, nothing major, yet she got ultra angry in the end. Beliving they were doing it on purpose (they wernt), wanting revenge (typical of my mother). Etc. Rather than thinking that they don't have many other options of where to park (which they don't)..
She has fallen out with, or lost contact with the family. Has no friends what so ever. My dad also has no friends to speak of. I have one close friend because I've possibly got similar genes or learnt bad personality. My mother easily finds fault in others.
actually I'm trying to understand my mom's issue and what it is. I want to work out the issues here so can you help?Thanks
Actually I was hoping to talk more in-depth about the issues as seeing a psychartist isn't possible in this scenario and I already understand this advice.