Hello from JustAnswer.
I am sorry for your losses.
Although there is no single correct answer in this situation, the first impression is that it would be reasonable to try counseling from a different person. If you feel that the current counselor does not understand the situation, it would be appropriate to seek a different counselor that can better understand the situation.
Ultimately, different people may respond to different approaches - individual counseling, support groups, etc. Even the same person may respond differently after various stressful life events. That is why there is no single correct answer. The bot***** *****ne is that whatever works for you is fine.
But since you feel that the current counselor is not understanding the current situation, it would be reasonable for the next step to be seeking counseling from a different person.
If I can provide any additional information, please let me know.
No. This can frequently be addressed through counseling, so may not require the services of a psychologist.