Hi Dr Norm
It was to be a homebirth, but transfer happened, luckily. Baby's head was as big as a rugby ball and tore through the clitoris (my clitoris is broken, she was later heard to say. Baby was totally fine and as she tells it recently the placenta went whoosh in pieces onto the floor. The nurses said 'don't look there, so much blood'. She was stitched up and kept in hospital for a week - no infection, baby a bit jaundiced so put under blue lamp for a couple of days. They came home and haven't looked back. Next birth went really well. This is an example of the kind of thing I hear from moms, so using the personal story to build my understanding of the trauma perceptions. By the way, dear daughter, was shocked but not majorly. Moms who have unresolved trauma from previously seem to have a harder time of it.