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I am sorry to hear about your newborn baby's problems
I understand that this is a tough decision for everyone concerned
As far as giving up the baby for adoption is concerned, there are many ways that you can go about it
1. You can ask the hospital to help you get in touch with a licensed adoption agency
2. You can also contact an independent third party agency directly
3. You can contact any parents who are interested in adoption and then finalize the same sitting with the respective legal assistants
In your specific case, the hospital will assist you in contacting an appropriate agency for adoption
Now I would like to discuss something slightly trickier
You need to be sure that you are making the right choice
I am not passing any judgments here, but we have seen many mothers who suffer from a lot of guilt AFTER giving up the baby for adoption
I would recommend that you read a couple of the links I am sending as well to get some perspective
I would also suggest that you may consider an 'open adoption' wherein you may have contact with the baby later as well, to know how she is doing.
This may be a policy thing and may vary as per different agencies, and adoptive parents as well
I would like to offer you my full support, since whatever way you choose is difficult,
Do remember to accept the answer if this was helpful,
Dr Gupta, MD
Thank you for the answer.
This is very tough decision for us but we beleive that the baby will be way more happy with somebody else. It would be best if she go to somebody who will truly love her and it will appreciate her presence. We will go for this open adoption. We want to visit the baby from time to time, send gifts. We also want the baby to know what happened, explain it to her. We don't want to forget about her and pretend nothing happened. We will live with this guilt for the rest of our lives with hope that the baby will forgive us once she is grown up.
For sure we will have to go to visit some doctor who will help us get back to our normal lives if possible
I will be in contact. Thank you