Hello, Sorry about this problem. Both symptoms can occur due to some infection somewhere so please get him checked by pediatrician and get tests like urine done to rule out infection.
If there is problem with milk feeds, you can alternately try yogurt and also other bland soft dishes from what you prepare in kitchen.
And for ideas regarding sleep management please visit www.babysleepsite.com and download a free booklet. Each baby has peculiar sleep inducing characteristics.
have been to see the docs and they are reluctant to give him anything, but as he is not eating and not sleeping due to what looks like to us he is in pain can we ask for something from the doc
Please ask referral to a clinical lab for test of urine and then if normal, blood test like hemoglobin, blood count.