Hi , just to clarify... this girl my step daughter is 29, married , seperated , unemployed, with two girls, 9 & 7, gets maintenance from her husband, childrens allowance, lone parents allowance, and some other state benefits, . She has never worked & in the past has stayed inour house with her girls on numerous occasions, . My husband and I paid the deposit and a 2 months rent to get her on her feet, on a rented house, buying a bed, fire guard, Curtains, fills of heating oil, Cars, car insurance, and financial assistNCE ehenever we could afford and even stimes when we couldnt. She lost her licence over driving under the influence of alcohol, continues to spend finds on cigarettes and alcohol even tho she should be sorting out bills. I just feel that I am now alone, and have my own daughter to rear and hopefully get tru college etc that I can ill afford to continue to rear her as well. i took reduncancy from my job & am now doing a Bussiness Internatioalisation course in college two days a wk to see if I can get back into work force. I am anxious as to what legal claim my step daughter has on what my husband left to me in his will. Her husband would be of a " non desirable " nature & although they re seperated I know they still communicate , indeed if it could be called " Communication " , .. I miss my husband terribly, & am absolutely shattered by the loss . If he was still with me we would discuss all this over a nice mug of tea at the kithchen table, & I would get reassusrance as always & love, & kindness & the words " well get tru this together Honey " ..