Thank you for your question
My name is Clare
I shall do my best to help you but I need some further information first.
Have you told your landlady how you feel?
Why does her boy friend need to speak to you at all - does he live there?
How often does the boyfriend call round?
What form of agreement have you signed?
I assume you do not wish to leave the property?
Your landlady is entitled to ask her boyfriend to act as her agent.
Having said that only she can give you notice to quit (unless she gives her boyfriend written authority to do so.
I would suggest that you write a formal letter of complaint to her about the way that he speaks to you and say that unless she confirms in writing that she has authorised him to speak to you in this way then you will in future refuse to respond to him
Of course this may mean that you are given notice to quit.
At that stage you may be able to challenge the fact that you are not a lodger but a tenant since she is not actually resident at the property - and I assume that the bills are in your name
Please ask if you need further details
Sadly if the bills are not in your name you are vulnerable I am afraid
You are most welcome - good luck