Hi again, Customer and thanks for your reply with additional and helpful information.
Thanks for your patience, as I was offline when you responded.
It's a shame that you are not in contact with your family, but the situation you describe (favouritism of your brother) is not an uncommon one.
It seems that part of the situation is that you don't live close to your friends in Bristol anymore, since you moved to London and some people don't like to travel to see friends, so you can still keep up a friendship with them by phone and/or email.
If your old school friend lives 5 miles away, that's very close, and if you find yourself being the one to always visit, invite her/him to your
home or to meet somewhere close by, for lunch, dinner, a drink, etc., and see what the result is. You can arrange to meet at someplace halfway in between both your homes, to do something enjoyable.
Many times, it's easier to meet new friends through people you already know, so if you have friends or acquaintances from work, suggest going somewhere to 'unwind' after work or on a weekend, and ask them to feel free to bring some of their friends, and this will increase the circle of people you know in London.
I completely understand your desire to meet someone, be in a relationship and have a family of your own. You might start looking at some online dating sites for people in your area who intrigue you. There are also choices, regarding what you are looking for and many of these sites offer 'friendship' as a choice, so you don't have to start dating immediately, but make some new friends and get to know different people who are in the same position as you are--old friends, not close by, busy with work, no time to really go out and meet new people. Sometimes, it's easier to get to know someone through emails, etc., and then, if you feel you have a lot in common, you can meet in person. However, I'm sure you are aware of the 'rules' when communicating online and/or meeting in person, with someone you don't really know: Always meet in a public place during a crowded part of the day and don't give out any personal information like where you live (actual address), work, financial information, or last name. Most people you can meet online are respectable, but there are always a few who are out to scam others, and those are the ones to watch out for.
At this point, feeling frustrated and depressed about your situation is not uncommon and it might be a good idea to see a counselor or therapist to talk everything out in person and unburden yourself. The counselor might even suggest a 'group' therapy session, where you will meet with people in similar situations to your own. You might even try to reconnect with your family, if this is something you would like to do. You can be honest and tell them that you always resented their favouritism toward your brother and you are part of the family too, and are not to be ignored. If you do not feel this would be right for you, leave things as they are, but at least think about it and consider it.
Putting yourself out there to meet new friends, by going to parks, museums and cafés, etc. will lift your spirits and if you are friendly and start making conversation with people,
this will increase your chances of making new friends.
I do hope that things will improve for you soon, and please let me know how you're progressing.
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