Hi, welcome to Just Answer and I am here to help you with your question. It sounds as though you are happy that your ex came back into your life after nine months time -- can you tell me a little about what your relationship was like when you were together?
For example, what kinds of things did you like to do together?
We just love spending time together, dinner, movies, days out, walks, nights in with a dvd. We spend so much of our time just laughing and enjoying each others company. This "friend" of his and her attentions are really bugging me at the moment.
She sent him a birthday card saying "to my best friend of 17 years, all my love"
It is important for you to have your ex come back with a certain understanding for giving you the total respect that you deserve. Have you reached the level of having more of a commitment between the two of you?