Hi! I'll be glad to be of help with this issue.
I can imagine how frustrating this situation must be for you. You are clearly a good catch but somehow it is not coming accross to the available women in your area.
And this is actually the key to my answer to you that you need to consider and think about. It may be that you will have to be more assertive in letting people know that you're looking to be in a relationship. And if they know of any young lady who might be your type, could they keep you in mind and suggest it to her?
I know that this most likely would be difficult for you to just say outright. You've already said you're shy and not forward, very polite. But being straightforward and just saying it like this is necessary when you have tried the subtle ways and they haven't worked. You have to just do it.
I'm recommending at work, letting coworkers know. The person who you do go the cinema with. Family, extended family. Neighbors who you are friendly with. Yes, it sounds like networking for a job. Well, it is networking but for something even more important than a job.
It's clear that you're downcast about this and I know it seems so difficult. It really is. Sometimes the universe makes it happen quickly and easily that two people meet. Sometimes it takes effort and effort and effort. I also wish it wasn't this much effort for you, but I don't know how you can avoid it.
There is one area you mention that is promising: you exercise at home.
Well, fitness centres/clubs are one place where people meet and congregate and size each other up and where you can ask someone if they'd like to go out for coffee after their workout. Or class. The idea with fitness as a networking avenue is not new and not to be minimized.
The technique is to visit the centres/clubs at times that are available to you. I use the plural because you need to browse a number of clubs before committing to joining. You're looking for clubs that have a lot of other people working out or taking classes when you can be there. Get the feel if it's a friendly place.
And when you do join, of course you hope that women are there that you can strike up a conversation with and ask out for coffee. But men who become acquaintances are, again, people you can ask to keep you in mind if they know someone who might be your type.
Okay, I wish you the very best!
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